I don't even make the chart? CIS father of a trans kid trying to make the trans kid laugh when they try to get my attention at the store by saying "Dad!"
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This! This is the right response! Thank you! 🤣
When I was a fresh teacher, a teenager asked 'can I go to the bathroom?' and I was excited to finally drop the classic 'idk if you CAN, but you MAY'. And they laughed. I wanted a groan. Very disappointed.
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Yeah I dont think I've heard of anyone saying this to make fun of trans people.
It's not quite like the attack helicopter "joke" although that follows the same ratio of conservatives/making fun of conservatives.
Helicopter joke?
It's not funny so you might have missed it, but people like to say they "identify as an attack helicopter". Conservatives, so "people" is accurate but a little bit of a stretch.
Oh right, yeah I've heard that but didn't think of it. It's not funny, just assholes being assholes.
The ONE time I heard this, I said it myself at the Gamestop where I'm a regular as a joke.
I was asked Cash or Credit, and I in a faux-outraged voice just asked "Did you just assume my tender?"
Then me and the cashier laughed.
The pun is great, but they actually didn't assume your tender because they asked what you wanted to use.
They assumed it wouldn't be a cheque
True, true, they still assumed a binary choice. Withdrawn!
You got a lot of nerve being right.
Yeah, the only time I actually heard that phrase in real life was at a transsexual gaming night, followed by a burst of laughter.
pls say transgender thanksies <3
Did you just assume Gaming Night's transness? Transsexual is a thing, and it's distinct from transgender.
It's not really that distinct, no. Not unless you're transmed and believe pre and post op trans people need to divided from each other.
Youre free to use whatever terms you'd like to use for yourself, but transsexual was how people referred to all transgender people until the term transgender took off in the late 90s.
You might say that term is a bit of a time warp.
go on bluesky and nearly the entire trans community uses the word transsexual. not in a transmed way (the community, at least my bubble, was very anti-transmed), but rather a "much of my trans identity comes from body dysphoria" way. when I was experimenting with bsky it was definitely a culture shock lol. I ultimately ditched bsky for separate reasons though
oh, then i am very sorri. i as genuinely not aware and assumed that it was an old-timey word. i apologize.
Even if it were an old timey word what's the issue?
It implies a sex change op which is quite invasive of people's privacy. It's also inaccurate for a lot of trans folks who may only change their gender expression and avoid the operation altogether, hence the adoption of transgender that has the right emphasis.
Not what I asked, but understood
It seems quite literally what you asked? If not then you should rephrase.
What's the issue?
It has the wrong implications.
Sorry, I wasn't clear!
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Not op, but I was taught by one of my trans friends it was an old term and not very correct nowadays as it inferred being trans was something sexual and not just yknow, bring trans ig
Can you explain what it means to me? I'm nb and I've always disliked it because it tends to confuse people, making them think being trans is a sexuality.
I identify as an A-10 Warthog.
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You forgot "cis allies making fun on cis transphobes" which I calculate to be a larger slice of the pie than all the others combined.
🟩 me when accosted by an irate middle aged woman while exiting the pointlessly gendered single seat bathroom (I am a fully housebroken husband)
ETA: by housebroken I mean i sit when i pee and clean up anything left on the bowl or seat that flushing doesn't handle. It's just good manners
Actually, trans is like 0.1% of the total population, so that sliver of trans people who say that should much tinier.
This is accurate. Source: me and my genderqueer friends
People have evolved stereotyping and assuming things cause it was beneficial from the evolutionary perspective.
Still is, people use heuristic thinking every day of their lives. It's not like we'd be better off removing that part of us, the ability to make quick and decisive decisions should be applauded. We just need to remember that the first conclusion we jump to is not always correct.