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[–] [email protected] 54 points 3 days ago (1 children)

If a French politician, businessman or senior bureaucrat doesn’t have at least one mistress, people wonder what’s wrong with him.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (6 children)

What’s the male equivalent to mistress?

Consort?

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Consort is not necessarily sexual, fe: The mayor was known to be consorting with known criminals. It's also not necessarily an illicit relationship: "queen consort" in the UK for example.

Paramour works for both male/female illicit sexual partners.

Personally I like "her/his poolboy" for a ladies'/man's male paramour, but that meaning is probably not going to be in a dictionary, though most people will get what is meant.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago

Boytoy is my preferred nomenclature for such relationships

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago
[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago

Logically, it would be master.

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[–] [email protected] 31 points 3 days ago

Being able to be openly gay or trans has probably helped this as well.

Now if only they’d realize nobody cares who smokes weed.

[–] ininewcrow 17 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Honey traps do work and no one cares about what it does to relationships or marriages or use them as black mail or extortion .... they are meant to get you in the bedroom to 'loosen you up' and spill the beans ... and bodily fluids.

Sex is always a great way to get people to talk and no one cares if you're straight, bi, trans, whatever ... the whole spying with sex is actually very open and tolerant because the people doing it don't care about your orientation, they just care about getting you in bed, horny and out of your mind and ready to give up things you otherwise wouldn't give up.

[–] [email protected] 36 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Honey traps do work and no one cares about what it does to relationships or marriages or use them as black mail or extortion … they are meant to get you in the bedroom to ‘loosen you up’ and spill the beans … and bodily fluids.

While pillow talk is also a means of gaining intel, intelligence services have a long history of using honeytraps as a means of generating blackmail material.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexpionage

[–] ininewcrow 9 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Which makes sense as sex is probably the oldest weapon in warfare in human history.

Give anyone the promise of fulfilling their sexual desires or threaten them with exposing their deepest darkest sexual fantasies and they'll gladly give up every secret they know.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I thought the oldest weapon was rock.

Grug sleeps with Grog woman. Grog hit Grug with rock.

Very effective.

[–] ininewcrow 6 points 2 days ago

Very easy to do but you missed the first weapon .... Grug sleeps with Grog woman .... who's to say that Grog or Grog woman were planning on getting rid of Grug in the first place? Now Grog and Grog woman have all of Grug's things.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago

This is why you tell your honeytrap false information.