My observation is that you are a broken human. Seek therapy.
this post was submitted on 01 Mar 2025
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I'm pretty sure it's genetics.
With respect to the other stuff, women are coached from a very early age to be attractive and aging is looked down on. There are industries dedicated to making (mostly) women more attractive. There are studies showing attractive women are more successful in the workplace. But my experience is that working is not as stressful as full-time homemaking/parenting - so I think you are a bit off track there.
In my experience, women rejuvenate men (or maybe it's all romantic partnerships idk). If it's with her, suddenly long walks or sports are back on the table. It can get their spirits up and even change their political views to a degree. Like from doomer to socialist hippy in a month. Nothing turns a man anarchist quicker than being in a romantic relationship with a punk.
Toy know, when you hit your head when getting up in the morning, your first move should NOT be making a post on social media.
Stress can make your hair turn gray.
I started getting gray in my beard and sideburns because of my ex-wife's abuse.
I think grey hair is just genetics. Regarding skin care, i think a lot of men don't really know what to buy or what do with it. My husband always used hair products but no skin care. I bought eye cream and moisturizer for him and now he uses it daily. Also, sun protection is important. Everyone knows that, but it's not pushed enough for daily use.
I started to go grey at 20, I am in IT, but I don't have any credit cards or mortgages, I don't really stress or worry alot (more than anyone else I'd say).
Tbh your post just makes it sound like you're bitter about some woman...
for IT imagine being hired as a subject matter expert but every piece of advice you give is ignored. Until something goes catastrophically wrong, now you are pulled into 3 different incident response meeting being blamed for it happening despite you raising the alarm for the past 6-12 months(but you can't say that because it is non constructive and finger pointing), asking what is happening, when will it be fixed, and how to prevent it from happening again.
But here is the kicker, the incident started an hour ago and you have been in the meeting for the past 30 min with everyone pointing fingers at you and expecting answers from you but you haven't even started proper troubleshooting because you were pulled into the meeting.
Then you ask for a budget to make the systems perform better. You spend 3 months gathering quotes, haggling prices, demoing products but when you lay out your proposal you get 'That is too expensive or everything is running fine we don't need that.' Then next week the sales team say we will start using X software with a cost of 3x what you found and lacks features you must have to maintain your cybersecurity insurance and it gets approved.
This is not just one bad employer, that is across the world. Subject matter experts thought as cost centres and escape goats.
Bad IT couture is like a horse. High risk, low reward and heart attack prone. No wonder we grey in our 30s.
Ok, this turned into more of an IT rant then I expected.
This is so relatable that it hurts, actually.
Indeed. Really puts things into perspective
Why would you max out credit and mortgage if your job pays well?
Meaning guy is so obsessed with the woman, give all money to her no matter what - at the same time not giving himself any care because no money left for him?
This is not how healthy relationships work. It seems like you're trying to goad us into some direction when the answer is just very simple: genetics.
Genetics.
Some of what you said about appearances of women vs men have to do with toxic culture. 50 yo man with gray? Hot dad bod. 50 yo woman with gray? Past her prime. It's complete crap and enforces unhealthy habits. Not that you believe these things, but "society" does.
Depends who you ask.
You my boss? It’s the work. And I was in IT.
Wife? The kids.
Kids? Because I like the smell of White Out^TM^.
Just kidding. I don’t actually say those things, I make better jokes but I can’t remember them anymore because my face caught up and nobody asks anymore.
In my case it’s genetic. I started getting greys in my early 20s and was fully grey by 30. This happened to my father. This is seemingly happening to my son. But only one of two biological sons yet the other has curly hair like my father that me and the other platinum child don’t have at all.
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