It is a bit of a mixed bag. It is unfortunately a very stressful time to be a transgender person in the USA. Thankfully, I live in Chicago, so I’m relatively safe, but I am still preparing to flee the country if I need to. It’s a really weird position to be in where my personal life is pretty good, but the rest of the country is on fire, and my community is under attack.
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It's alright. Had a shitty past few weeks but that helped me come to the realization that I was caring too much about work. I'm naturally a self-motivated person and have a desire to do well and improve whatever company I'm with. This leads me to becoming too emotionally invested in my work.
I realized (yet again) that my company doesn't deserve my best and they don't appreciate it so stop giving it to them. I'm more checked out at work but generally more happy.
My week's going great! 😃 it's starting to get warmer so I've been doing some gardening when the weather's been more mild. I also need to get around to getting my passport. I have so many different countries on my list to travel to, including Mauritius, Australia, New Zealand, Kimolos in Greece (the water is so clear it almost does not look real! My gosh!)
Besides that, I've been kinda busy so I haven't had much time for drawing, but I'll get there eventually!
So far it’s been good. I’m learning about how computers function and listening to some Kirby music ( yeah from the video game )
Spent the week dealing with bedbugs & scabies (I live in Public Housing) so I am not going to let anyone in my room anymore. Or even let them stand near me, period. that was a hell week I don't ever want to go through again. Good thing I don't smoke in bed because I soaked my mattress seams with rubbing alcohol and wrapped the whole mattress with plastic and sealed it up. that seems to have gotten all the bugs quite dead. Scabies treatment is just a cream you put on your entire body, even under the fingernails, using an old toothbrush. And they gave me some pills that put your lights out (says on the information sheet that it's for putting people to sleep for surgery) so I was able to sleep the night through without itching, first time in weeks. I have had such childhood trauma and have AUDHD-- I thought , when I saw the blood spots on my sheets, that I was picking my skin again as I did in my younger years. And I just thought I had hives, which I did, but they were from the bedbug bites. Good grief I'm so vigilant now I am driving myself insane checking the bedseams over and over but I haven't seen a single one for a long time now. I feel so bad for the people in this building who can't even summon the energy to deal with this stuff so they drink themselves to sleep or take crack or meth or fentanyl or whatever. We lose a person about every month to drugs or alcohol. I gotta get out of this building lol
I feel pretty good. I finally saw some visual progress in my transition and I went through all of my documents and sorted them and got rid of everything I don't need anymore.
My cat woke me up meowing loudly at 6.30am so that she could go outside and sit and look inside the house. So pretty good so far.
Adorable
It's ok I'm having plastering doing so it's a bit stressful. The plasterers trainee has gone off with a bad back but the plasterer has said he can finish it Monday or Tuesday. I fucking hope he can!!! I told him in a friendly way he's not getting paid till the job is done and he's got rave reviews.
I feel you! We're doing a whole house renovation and it's so stressful! I had a meltdown this week over wall texture. It's so stupid and seems like the smallest thing, but when you're paying for it you want it to be right
Yep and you use your house every day!
We've had no heat at the beginning of the week, thankfully that got fixed today. Had to take a cold shower yesterday :-D And now the supply valve for the washing machine started leaking. So yeah, a bit stressful, but that's life. It could be worse.
Pretty good. My work week is almost done, and it's finally going to be warm enough tomorrow to get to the driving range and see how bad my golf swing is after four months of not swinging any clubs 😬
It's going pretty well. Spent time with my lover and some friends, I have a needed medical appointment Friday, and yeah... basically I'm in a good place.
Who the hell refers to their significant other as their "lover"?
Well, I do for one.
Maybe I'm missing something, but can you explain exactly what's wrong with this?
I'm just trying to understand where you're coming from.
They’re probably just an asshole; just ignore them
Yeah, I wanted to give the benefit of the doubt.
Not sure if it's deserving of reporting. I'm new to Lemmy and don't know when or how to report comments.
Me either I’m new here too
Not really good if I'm being honest, too much work I guess. Would love to retire if someone wants to toss some money in my direction
I traveled for some volunteer work and caught the crud. It progressed into a double ear infection that's been awful. But! I'm finally starting to see the light on the other side. I can breathe through my nose again and have regained hearing in my left ear. Woo!
Shit, to be honest.
It's my last ever Spring Break and I have been bedridden with COVID since Monday.
Not great.
I'm over my cold from last week that stole my weekend from me, so I actually get to go do things. Bought new work boots today after something in my heel(s) finally said enough was enough and started hurting enough that it couldn't be ignored. All in all things are looking good.
On an unrelated note: any ideas on how to assist someone be more concise with their language politely?
I'm struggling to not get frustrated with the amount of preamble, staggering, and second guessing that happens on a regular basis for what should be simple conversational topics. It just takes so long to get to the point that I feel forced into a box that there's no polite way out of.