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Here's the thing. You said an “LGBTQ+ person is a crow."
Is it in the same family? Yes. No one's arguing that.
As someone who is a scientist who studies crows, I am telling you, specifically, in science, no one calls LGBTQ+ people crows. If you want to be "specific" like you said, then you shouldn't either. They're not the same thing.
If you're saying "crow family" you're referring to the taxonomic grouping of Corvidae, which includes things from nutcrackers to blue jays to ravens.
So your reasoning for calling an LGBTQ+ person a crow is because random people say "but they’re both friend shaped?" Let's get grackles and blackbirds in there, then, too.
Also, calling someone a human or an ape? It's not one or the other, that's not how taxonomy works. They're both. An LGBTQ+ person is an LGBTQ+ person and a member of the crow family. But that's not what you said. You said an LGBTQ+ person is a crow, which is not true unless you're okay with calling allmembers of the crow family crows, which means you'd call blue jays, ravens, and other birds crows, too. Which you said you don't.
It's okay to just admit you're wrong, you know?
Friend shaped?
Fluffy, cute,
CAN I PET THAT DAWWWWG.
Someone who based on their appearance is likely to be safe, friendly, or chill. Like if I'm somewhere and there's someone with pink hair and piercings, they're more likely to be cool with my deal.
Someone who based on their appearance is likely to be safe, friendly, or chill
I thought we weren't supposed to do this
I mean, look at it this way, if someone has a pride flag pin on their jacket, are they more, or less, likely to be safe to approach as a queer person?
It entirely depends on what it is you're looking for, if it's immutable characteristics, yeah, that's bad
But looking at who is safe and who isn't in this and similar manners, is something minorities and women have always been doing
Besides, this is tangential to the actual joke in the meme, which basically is just a jokey way of saying "they're friend"
You're allowed to do it for chosen aspects of appearance. Skin colour is a no-no, clothing is fine.
Also, will forever remember the face of anyone that is mean to me and will tell all my friends about it.
I humbly accept the rank of Corvid.
CAW, MOTHERFUCKERS!
Huh, now I understand why my friends keep squaking "Nevermore! Nevermore!" at me.