Partner was all "hey, you have too much stuff in your purse/backpack" so we sat down and sorted my backpack items into
- Need at work (this pile turned out to be empty, since anything I need at work I might need on a hike)
- Need when hiking
- Both
And now my backpack just has "both" in it. It's a tad lighter. I'm still worried I'll need something and not have it because anxiety.
I'm making up two "hiking" bags with the same items and we'll keep one in each of our cars, so I can grab it and add it to my backpack as needed.
I'm still not confident this will solve any problem I had, I was OK with the weight of my backpack before.