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The place where you meet them, and the quality and style of clothing.

For real, just like cars, expensive clothing is recognizable. Don't get me started on shoes, watches, etc.

I only met people at the whole foods hot bar.. over a pound of food = wealthy less than a pound of food /= wealthy. Getting that extra $3 avocado on your burger or sandwich at a restaurant = wealthy. No one's going to tell you but there will be signs

They don't go to places you or I go to on the regular. They have exclusive clubs, restaurants, or hang out on someone's yacht.

Income frequently defines where and how people socialize, I'm pretty sure it's not an intentional a thing.

The very rich probably meet and socialize people who meet at expensive country clubs where one has to prove their wealth for Board approval.

If you don't know the secret handshake youre not rich enough.

How rich are we talking? Owns-three-islands-rich or just upper middle class? Because the latter's wealth isn't very visible, but they also don't really have an issue with forming relationships with those less well-off.

Then, for actually rich people who do not wish to associate with riffraff, there's plenty of signs:

• Where did you meet them? There's plenty of settings that are almost exclusively full of rich people, such as yacht clubs or expensive hotels.
• What are they wearing? Things like brand-name clothes or expensive jewelry are some notable signs.
• What is their home like? Some shitty apartment or a mansion with a manicured lawn and a swimming pool? Things like size, location, the condition of the home, their furniture, items, electronics, etc., tell a lot about the person's wealth.

None of these is 100% waterproof, of course. They could be in that expensive place with a rich friend. They could be wearing Gucci because they got lucky at a thrift store. But when you have multiple of these combined, it's pretty safe to assume the person is rich.

I don’t know wealthy people like that, they just don’t meet non-wealthy people, and not because they don’t want to, it’s just their bubble

Rich people arent even connected to people who arent rich. Its their entire ecosystem. Everyone has money, thats just how it is. They dont talk about money because they just have it. Its like air.

There are all sorts of filters:

• Expensive clubs. Members only associations like country clubs can skew towards the ultra rich. Yacht clubs and polo clubs are kinda an extreme version of this, but there are all sorts of organizations where the membership can be assumed to be rich.
• Expensive hobbies. Wine tasting, skiing, golfing, boating, horse stuff, biking, and traveling/vacations can range from the slightly expensive to prices that only the ultra rich can afford.
• Related to both of the above, expensive places. If you're skiing in an expensive resort town, and hanging out in the lobby of a $2000/night hotel, you'll probably only see employees of these places or other very rich people. Some have even layers beyond that, like an exclusive members only club in an expensive area, or a separate lounge for only people lodging in the most expensive rooms in the hotel. Or if you're at a private jet airport, and weather causes delays and cancellations, standing around in the terminal might allow you to mingle with other private jet people. Or if you live in a crazy expensive neighborhood or building, your neighbors are pretty much guaranteed to be rich.
• Third party verification. Networking, introduction by mutual friends/acquaintances, even social media or dating apps where you have to prove your status/wealth.

It's not all or nothing, either. Some places have a disproportionately high number of rich people but aren't necessarily exclusive to the rich (private schools, certain types of clubs, certain types of activities/hobbies, public parks/restaurants/libraries/museums in rich areas). So a lot of rich people do mingle with the middle class, but often will feel comfortable letting their guard down more or less in particular places or in particular groups.

They go hang out in incredibly expensive country clubs and on their yachts and at elite universities and prep schools, polo camps and air conditioned safaris.

This is the function of exclusive social or networking events. Often either an exclusive invite list or very high plate price. You’re either invited to the table, or pay to be there.

Once you’re at the event, you’re either known, or engage in small talk where details are revealed. Here strategic partnerships form, or there are quid pro quo for access to secondary or tertiary networks.

It’s not what you know; it’s who you know.

A lot of rich people actually try to live a normal looking life. Stealth wealth, and you might never find them until you get invited to their house.

Their house will be nicer than average, probably not crazy, but just a lot more than a typical person would have. They will have things like fancy light fixtures and switches that don’t look totally normal, the furniture will look normal but if you look closer you’ll only find high quality wood construction, tongue and groove, etc. You should also notice things are probably cleaner than a typical house (because regular house cleaner), everything works, and major appliances are newer generally. They are rich so they don’t have to make any budget trade offs.

These people might have insane net worth and they are trying to down play it because they know how bad it is for them when they are obviously wealthy for so many reasons.

Ostentatious wealth signals are usually sign of a HENRY or a striver, those people typically aren’t actually wealthy they have a lot of debt.

Wealthy people don't mingle with the rest of us. They literally live in a totally different world, and you ain't invited unless you can clean their toilets for cheap, or give them massages on their private Caribbean islands and shut your trap.

There's an app called 'Rich Kids'

It requires $1,000.00/month fee. People use it just so they can communicate with other rich folks.

For the online side of things, there are actually social platforms designed specifically for wealthy people. For instance, there's Raya, which is an invite-only dating app that only allows celebrities as members. The platform was kept "secret" by making it accessible only through an iPhone app, whose description in the App Store was intentionally vague and boring, to discourage any plebs from bothering to install it. Raya is just one of many secret "elite" social platforms that most of us have never even heard of. The wealthy live in a completely different reality from us.

only wanted to be friends with other wealthy people

Never go out to public places. Never go alone anywhere. Meet people mostly at private places with invitations, or maybe for example at charity events where you pay 5 figures just to get inside.

and wanted their kids to only date and marry people from other wealthy families?

Have your kids at private schools and the most expensive universities.

Do you think they care? Wealth isn't a dick size competition. They socialize with coworkers old friends, family ect. like everyone else