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Try volunteering somewhere, you will likely meet good people that way. Usually you have to be decent to give up your time for the benefit of others. I volunteer at a local clinic and a "soup kitchen", made a lot of friends that way. If you want to be a part of the community you cant go wrong by helping solve the problems of the community. If you're not sure how to get started, check out your local United Way.

The comments about volunteering seem really helpful. Go down to your local animal control center and you will meet some decent people.

Also, Halloween tends to create possibilities. Even if you are just handing out flyers for a local project of some sort.

I gather you are not going to bars, which is a really good idea

Neighbors do tend to stick to themselves and socializing here is DIFFICULT. It’s worth it, but it’s hard. Depending on the part if the country your in affects it a lot as well. I met a lot of people when I started going dancing; there was a regular group and the activity itself is social. You could audit a class at a university perhaps. Depending on your age you’ll find a LOT of people willing to study or work together and you can build friendships that way. I would also suggest just going to the neighbors if you’re interested. You could bring some sort of sealed food (in America it tends to be weird to cook for someone when you don’t know them) and invite them to something. It’s hard, but if you ask the people you see regularly to go and do things it’ll work out. If you’re in a club for pickleball then just ask someone if they’d like to play once or twice more a week.

I know I’ve given a little of information, but let me say that a lot of people my age tend to be in your shoes so the whole environment of meeting people is changing. But a lot of them meet people at university. When I meet new people, I usually just chat with them for a few weeks then ask them for help with something and offer to buy them a lunch as payment. Hopefully the lunch goes well and you go from there

Depending on your state and whether you live in a city, suburbs, or somewhere more rural the answer will vary.

Some places casual conversations with strangers is normal others people tend to ignore each other.

Regarding neighbors if you live somewhere with a yard or garden it's not uncommon to borrow or lend tools like a pressure washer or snowblower. You could also offer to help them do yard work. If you want to make a good impression I'd offer help before asking for it from them. (If you do borrow one make sure to return it in a timely manner)

You should also look to see if there are any local community events like your town celebrating the anniversary of it's founding.

If you go to a church, temple, or mosque you could probably ask there, they might have cook outs or other events.

I moved from the Midwest to the east coast after college. I found that the city I was living in didn't like people that weren't originally from there. The only friends I made were other people who didn't grow up there. And some of them were from like 45 minutes away, and they were still not wanted. I was never happier to move back to the Midwest.

So, maybe where you live just isn't receptive to newcomers?

Learn jiu-jitsu or judo, you get to know everybody.

Work, groups, going to social events, etc.

Are you in a city? The suburbs? A small town? Do you work with other people? Go to church or temple or mosque? To college?

As an adult I have made friends from work, from yoga, and oddly enough, Pokemon go. Not counting the friends who were parents of my kids' friends since that probably doesn't apply to your situation. But I am in a mid-sized city with a large contingent of people who were not born here. So many different people from different places.

Also if/when you get a girlfriend (or boyfriend, whatever applies) they may come with some built-in friends and family, will help expand your circle.

Two words: Palestinian Chicken.

That’s the cool part. You don’t! ;)

New to America USA, how do you socialize and meet new people?

Carefully. Very carefully. They have guns and like to use them. Especially on people they don't know, don't like, who look strange, or who have an accent.