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I'm currently struggling to find my home. I have an account here at lemmy.ml, where most of my posts are, and one at kbin.

Why do you think your instance is the place to be?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 9 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I did not. I ended up on lemmy.world but visiting over, which I think is a cool feature.

[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I guess a better question would have been, "Why did you choose your instance?"

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago

Lemmy World is run by chill people with experience. They run Mastodon.world, which is a top 10 Mastodon instance.

Since the start it's been the most stable instance I think, they bought a beefy server after all the Reddit shenanigans and aren't imposing any weird restrictions. Would recommend.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Not gonna lie. I've got multiple accounts across platforms. But yours seems to be responding quickly and the content is solid, so... here I am.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I joined lemmy.ml because the join-lemmy site gave me extremely little to go on. It was a coin toss between this and beehaw.org once I realized how few instances were established and not right-wing.

That was only 2 weeks ago and already I've seen the site force 2 server upgrades, even as the admins have strongly encouraged new users to join elsewhere to prevent centralization.

The instance list desperately needs a few columns added, including whether new signups are encouraged or discouraged.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

I just picked lemmy.one mostly at random, but also in part because it advertised itself as well regulated but also not heavily populated and thus prone to crashing with the recent influx of reddfugees.

Seems to work okay, but I can't create a community without admin approval and the instance also disallows downvoting, and I'm not a big fan of that at all, but I'll give it a while longer and see.

I'm still finding it a challenge to find the balance of communities that interest me I used to have. There's an awful lot of meta chatter about the site itself from new users that, while I understand, gets rather annoying when it takes up the whole feed. So it's definitely an adjustment, resulting in me using it less than I did my old haunts, but in the meantime I've gotten a lot more reading done than I used to, so I've got that going for me.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Didn't realize I couldn't downvote. Might be time to look elsewhere.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Me, I'm waiting for things to settle a bit and see what recommendations float to the surface for me. Not being able to downvote might turn out to actually be good for my own mental health. We'll see.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

feddit.de because it was made for german potatoes like me

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[โ€“] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago (4 children)

I joined sh.itjust.works because I like the domain. It makes me smile ๐Ÿ™‚

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I read the thread where that domain was born, lol. It was pretty funny.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Was looking for a furry one, and pawb.social seemed to be well-run (since it was related to a couple of decently-sized Mastodon servers) and was generic enough (and not NSFW focused). There also seemed to be a decent number of technical people there as well (in fact, one of the Mastodon instances is furry.engineer), so it matched up with my other interests as well. I considered lemmyrs.org, but ended up not choosing it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

same, went for the furry one.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

The github page said to pick one at rasdom and not over think it.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago
[โ€“] TheUtopianCat 3 points 2 years ago

I'm on lemmy.ca because I'm Canadian.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I was told it was better for load balancing if we didn't all use the same one. So I just looked for one that had easy signups and didn't seem overeager to block stuff. Apparently, some from this instance come form /r/china. I'm not, but I do drink coffee. Anyway, I think it's working out so far; better than reddit anyway.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

I joined Beehaw early on when things where a lot quieter because I liked what they were trying to do (and back then there were only like two instances, and I didn't want to put more load on lemmy.ml).

Joined sh.itjust.works to make a community after the sysadmin just casually walked up with a huge server, which is a level of swagger I can get behind. I've since moved to this as my "main" account since Beehaw defederated with lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works (which sucks, but is understandable).

May move again to pawb.social at some point, although that means people will know something about me. :P

Edit: And now pawb.social has defederated with sh.itjust.works... I'm getting more and more tempted to just roll my own personal instance just for me...

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Where / how can you see a list of who is (de)federated with whom?

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

At the bottom of each page, there's a link for "instances", which shows who the current instance has blocked.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

If you're Ok with NSFW there is also yiffit.net. As far as I know we aren't defederated with anyone yet.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

infosec.pub because their communities were interesting.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

I chose lemmy.world solely on the fact it had a lot of members. Lemmy.ml was a contender too. I just wanted to jump in and check things out. Knowing (slightly)more now, I don't think it was a bad choice.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (3 children)

I joined mander.xyz because it has a central theme around the natural sciences. It could possibly include STEM content as well; there is an ongoing discussion about it. The admin(s) are present and very responsive.

For anyone with a love of science and/or nature I recommend it highly as a home instance of Lemmy.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Looks cool! If i ever need to switch instances, I know where I'm going

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm trying to set up another account at mander but I haven't had any success.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Really?! That is strange. I just tested account creation and it appears to work fine. What error are you getting?

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Mander has been lovely so far. Plenty of interesting content and chill people. It was the first instance I saw when browsing that looked friendly and yet didn't require me to write an essay to register an account.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I picked my regional one (technically also better for latency)

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Also better because if the admin bans you, you can find them in person and "discuss" about the ban. (such discussions usually involves fists)

(/s please don't actually commit a violent act lol)

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

For the meme.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Vlemmy.net as it currently hasn't defederated from anyone or been defederated.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I joined sh.itjust.works because my application at lemmy.one was taking a while and I mean, who doesn't want to be a sh.it.head ๐Ÿ™ƒ

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I'm on Beehaw because there are no downvote button

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[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I read two things about the fediverse and immediately hopped over here to make an account. Though I had no idea what I was doing, like no idea. Kbin was the first name that popped up and I signed up for it.

Again, no idea what I was doing. Once I did sort of figure out the fediverse I also signed up for Lemmy but I didn't seem to like it as much as Kbin so, I'm sticking here.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I chose beehaw. I chose wrong. So now I'm on lemmy.world and nothing was lost ๐Ÿ˜Ž

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

lemmy.world seemed reputable with a straightforward domain name, and no out-of-the-ordinary policies.

[โ€“] ram 2 points 2 years ago

I went with lemmy.ca because I figured it'd put me in proximity to Canadian Political discourse.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I'm using https://lemmy.dbzer0.com because I can't start an account in lemmy.ml

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Lemmy.ml re-opened registration but I had problems signing up. Lemmy.world seemed like the next best option.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

Knowing that Beehaw and Lemmy.ml were overloaded, I chose the next biggest one in my country at the time, which was Lemmy.one.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I prefer kbin's UI to the other federated servers I've tried. Beehaw is probably #2 for me, and it seems like a really nice community. Mastodon.social is also cool but it's a lot more twitter-like which I have a hard time getting used to.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I run a Mastodon server and Lemmy started to grow, happened to find a cool domain so here we are

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago

I initially used reddthat.com because I've already tried 5 different instances and the sign up doesnt work. Then I remembered about the piracy community, so i switched over to lemmy.dbzer0.com, a pirate heaven. Feels like home. ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿดโ€โ˜ ๏ธ

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I figured my instance would make it easier to satisfy my requirement to tell everyone I use Arch, btw.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

Kbin.social has a good interface, a few userscripts to customize it as I please, and it was the first one listed on the website that was in english lol.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I started on https://midwest.social (Lemmy) before Kbin was on my radar because I'm from the Midwest. There are things I like about both platforms. I'm spending more time on kbin.social right now because Midwest is having performance issues, but I like the community there, so I may hang out on both and see where the platforms go with development, features, mobile apps, and the feel for the local community.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I made an account at kbin.social and just went with it. It's all gonna be federated anyway (unless it gets defederated) and each day actually feels like it's improving.

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