DakRalter

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

Nope. Autistic here. I've always kept two sets of bed linen (doesn't everyone?) and after I've stripped the old one and shoved it in the laundry pile, the new sheets will often just sit on my chair for a few hours, while I get distracted with other things.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 days ago

Cucumber, my lord, cucumber.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Wasn't it the law that all state schools had to start with morning worship? It was sad that we were made to sing Christian songs and were too young to even know. My school didn't even let anyone but Jehovah's witnesses opt out of singing Christian/Christmas songs.

Sometimes we sang Streets of London. But most of the time it was gospel songs.

My nephew and niece go to the same school I went to and I'm sure I've heard one of them singing one of the gospel songs.

Edit: still a law.

https://assembliesforall.org.uk/about/law-on-assemblies/

Current law requires all state-funded schools in England, Wales and Northern Ireland to hold daily acts of ‘Collective Worship’. In England and Wales in schools with no formal religious character this worship must be ‘wholly or mainly of a broadly Christian character’. In Northern Ireland the requirement is for ‘undenominational’ collective worship.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

In my area of London, I'd say 80-90% of cyclists think red lights don't apply to them. I've even been sworn at by another cyclist for stopping at a traffic light.

The illegal ebike users are the worst. My ex saw one hit a woman with two kids, because he just zoomed past a red when it was green man at the crossing.

Cyclists are the reason I've gone back to public transport. I actually felt safer on my cycle commute on the high road with cars, than I did on dedicated cycle lanes 😞

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

You Winsome, you lose some.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 days ago

AFAIK Darrow played it, liked the game and then plagiarised it. Parker did buy the rights from Magie after the fact.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Landlord's_Game

After reading that, I'm more confused than ever.

Anti-Monopoly is a variation that maintains the competition good, monopoly bad theme.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

I used to work at Paddington Station, I'm sure we had streamlined trains.

Also, don't we have pendolinos anymore?

Gotta admit, the old school high air resistance trains look cute though.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I said it's a start, not the whole answer to the housing problem.

Also, just as examples:

Long-term empty homes To be classed as ‘long-term empty’ a home has to be liable for council tax and to have been unfurnished and not lived in for over 6 months. This figure is increasing all the time, but as at October 2023, it was 261,189.

Holiday lets These are an extension of second homes - homes not used as primary residences but used to make profit for their owners, short-let for several weeks or months of each year, blocking them from becoming anybody’s home. In many cases owners ‘flip’ to business rates which are often cheaper than paying council tax. As at March 2024, there were believed to be at least 85,000 of these such dwellings, flipped to business rates.

https://www.actiononemptyhomes.org/facts-and-figures

I'm not against building more homes. We need more council homes for sure. Housing should be seen as a human need, not a commodity to trade.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

I'm still the height of an average 12 year old, I'm good!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 days ago

Being stuck in a traffic jam (that you're only contributing to) counts as freedom, whereas on a bike, you can just wheel your bike past the jam then be on your merry way.

Who has more freedom again?

It really does surprise me that letting a metal box insulating you from the world is what carbrains consider tough and FREE, whereas a bike, that you power with your OWN LEGS is sissy and WOKE! They have it so backwards!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago (3 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

If you're interested, it's quite hot today. My room is 29.2°. The hallway just outside my doorway (which is open) is 27.5°.

 

I only just found out.

A bike-friendly city is a people-friendly city.

Happy cycling!

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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by [email protected] to c/lemmyconnect
 

There seems to be a visual glitch, where upvoting also makes the downvote counter go up by one as well.

Edit: hopefully this link works: https://autistics.life/@SilverArrows/114474315964904870

 

I don't know if I'm missing it, but I can't see an option to report accounts. I just got another Nicole spam, this time with a bunch of bitcoin links, but I could only find a block option via Connect, and had to logon via web to report the account. I looked on the three-dot menus both on the message and the profile, but I couldn't see a report.

 

There used to be a red and blue gradient background here. Now it's gone. I reset the theme, but it still shows white text on white background. Not that big of a deal as there's nothing there I need to read, but still mildly annoying. Also it means the switch user option isn't visible now.

Also is this how the surface colour setting is meant to work? I wanted the background colour in light mode to be an off-white so it's easier on the eyes, but there doesn't seem to be a way?

Thanks!

 

From https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yDjlRu4CnjI

NomoSapienss: Park Tool company is the father I never had!

ParkTool: We're proud of you, son 💙

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submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

This time, Jenny is done with his crap and walking away from a toxic relationship.

(Background iimage by DallE 3)

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Anxiety vs Overwhelm (neurodivergentinsights.com)
 

Warning: ranting.

Like many, I was fobbed of with an anxiety disorder NOS diagnosis. I assumed that what I felt was anxiety. Last autumn I got to the top of the waiting list for anxiety therapy.

And it was useless. It got to the point where it felt like the therapist was trying to push low self esteem onto me so she could cure me of it, and thereby cure my anxiety.

I tried to explain to her that my anxiety wasn't based on irrational thoughts, but experience. If I have to go somewhere I'm not familiar with, I will get overloaded with all the new input. I will struggle to process it because I need to be alone to process. The same applies to my feelings. I can't deal with them when I need to, because I can't identify them. So all this makes me scared because I know it will exhaust me or make me shut down. I just see this void when I don't have any reference images. The more I can fill in that picture, the less anxious I feel. Because I can process this in advance (eg using streetview to memorise a route and save landmarks so I can navigate).

No, she says. It's because you have low self esteem. Now write down some bad statements about yourself and say them out loud.

In my quest to educate her, I came across this article and it makes so much sense why CBT wasn't working. The anxiety diagnosis doesn't fit.

Even after asking her to learn about autistic anxiety, she didn't bother. So next session I gave her a printout of that article. Something told me she wouldn't bother to learn anything from it, so I discharged myself.

Is what you're feeling anxiety or overwhelm? Does the anxiety come because you know from your own experience that something will cause you to struggle? Is the feeling more akin to dread?

 

Someone on Mastodon shared this link with me, and I thought you might find it as interesting as I do.

I really hate the misconception of the spectrum. It enables nasty people like Ellen degeneres to justify being a bully (in case you missed it, she tried to get diagnosed autistic. When that didn't work, she said, well it's a spectrum so we're all a little autistic, so I'm not a bully). And enables others to dismiss our struggles, cos hey, we're all on the spectrum!

Back to the article, I feel like I'm a mix of the three examples. I can see some that match from each example. How about you? When I stop feeling so lazy, I might do my own custom one.

 

He is such a chill dude! Can you believe HE wanted MY autograph? I wish I could have thought of more things to ask him about. I'm still a noob at bike mechanics, and a slow learner, but he was so encouraging and kind, and a lot of fun!

He really is a mechanical hero!

 

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