I've read through a few of your replies, and they generally contain a "so, ..." and a generally inaccurate summary of what the conversation thread is about. I don't know whether there's a language barrier here or you're being deliberately obtuse.
It would appear to be that your desire for a community without moderators is so strong, that a platform like Lemmy is not suitable for what you want, and as such you are likely not going to find the answer you want here and spend your time arguing against the flow.
Good luck finding what you're looking for 👍
I mean, if I was going to go out, then getting my shit mixed by a meteor is pretty awesome. I'm sure I'll make it on to a few Buzzfeed articles over the next ten or twenty years.
All things considered though, it would indeed be nice if it landed somewhere inconsequential like the ocean; the desert; or Florida.