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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by Cloak@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 
 

There's been an influx of content surrounding lemmy here. Some of it is open ended:

  • "What kinds of things from reddit would you like to see Lemmy avoid as the user base grows?"
  • "Lemmy, what do you call users of Lemmy?"

And these are a-ok! There's also been a lot of questions like

  • "How do I block a user?"
  • "How do I join a community on a different instance"

These aren't open ended (at least, relatively). They are objective based, and just need a resolution, rather than discussion. These sort of questions are more relevant to !lemmy_support@lemmy.ml.

I know there's also questions like "What are you guys doing when there’s multiple communities for the same thing across instances?". I'm inclined to let those stay, there is lots of opportunity for discussion. It's a game of discretion from a moderation perspective, but I assume most can easily guess what is cold hard support.

At least from me, moderation of support posts has been sporadic at best, despite the long standing rule. I will begin redirecting these questions to !lemmy_support@lemmy.ml, however I'm of course willing to listen to the community here if that's not what is wanted, as well as other feedback.

edit: support posts will now be removed, not locked

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Afaik, archive.md / archive.today used to work but now it doesn't.

Even when browsing while signed in, linkedin will notify them about any person who viewed their profile. I know one can turn on anonymous mode, but still it will notify them.

Does anyone know a way to browse this website without being logged in ?

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We don't have an Ask Historians yet, so I think this is the best place to ask at the moment

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I do not immediately judge those who are unlike me, but I am a part of the childfree crowd (and to an enormous extent promote adoption over childbirth, which is in no way atypical among childfree people), and the topic of being childfree showed up in the most unexpected conversation today.

So... I'm not going to go into specifics since many of them are already overblown topics, but I'll start off by summarizing and saying a lot of people hold a "neutral people are as guilty as the wrongdoers" viewpoint. A kind of Edmund Burke or Anakin Skywalker way of thinking that has been used when it comes to neutrality in promoting world leaders, not helping human lives, etc. I saw two people debate about this, and one of them brought up the question "how do you feel about people who don't adopt?"

"I don't judge them, it's not even that common. Why do you ask?"

"Visualize a bunch of children. Some are on the streets and some are in foster care centers. They suffer and suffer, and they look out onto the streets to see parents who willingly chose to go through the pain of childbirth to use their bodies to spend and convert a bunch of inanimate atoms into an entity that will be using more of our air and needs to eat [rather than going the painless route of adopting a child that is already in existence and needs a home]. Then they look at other people who don't want to give birth and have birth children but still look in indifference at all the suffering parentless children. Around half of adults on Earth are currently childless, and yet around a fifth of children are in broken homes or are parentless. It is the closest thing to willfully being evil that the majority of humans come to. I'm sure most of the people obsessing over insurance for example are going to opt for no children or for birth children."

That last part resonated with me. I'm testing this out because I'm interested in this as a mental exercise. What's your view on people who don't adopt, including yourself if you can justify it?

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What IDE do you use and why ? (www.bleepingcomputer.com)
submitted 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) by Crampi@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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Went to visit this godforsaken place and was terrified by the amount of racist/xenophobic/nazi/misogynistic/incel/far-right posts and comments.

Was it always like that? Am I too used to being on Lemmy (or Fediverse in general)? Is it just my feed or is it like this for everybody?

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submitted 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago) by RicoSuave@feddit.cl to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 
 

there was a recent one i saw in Icelandic and another in japanese that i didn’t see on the lemmy join page.

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i’d like to make one but i don’t know how to code, for one, and also don’t know if it’s something i can just make on my ipad or if it needs a lot of resources.

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This is Harvard Health Publishing, they say I need about 0.8 grams of protein everyday, now, that means I would have to consume about 70 grams of protein everyday (minimum) to stay healthy, now, I live in India and don't consume that much, but I consider myself pretty healthy.

So, what's the amount one should realistically be aiming towards? If I were to take 70 grams of protein everyday, what measurable changes can I expect in my life🤔?

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Considering things like modern medicine not being available, infant and child mortality, the gruesome nature of most work back then... would a "standard" commoner from back then laugh at how 'soft' our world has become from their point of view?

What can we infer from people's mindsets and resilience back then vs now, and do you think we're on the verge of a return to these conditions?

I think techno-feudalism has the capacity to be much more brutal than any old time machiavellan clown. The way our minds are deliberately manipulated by algorithms nowadays are much more subtle and insidious than anything the tyrants of yesteryear could've dreamt up, while at the same time convincing people they have it better than ever.

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By "favorite fictional character" I don't mean "favorite character of your favorite fiction", consider the media itself to be irrelevant.

Just consider the character itself and how it changes throughout whichever segments of its timeline, regardless of how the world moves around it (unless it's relevant);
the show / book / comic / game / political campaign itself may be absolute trash, but you love some character from that more than any other character from anything at all.

Like Magnifico from Wish, or the driver from Big Rigs: Over the Road Racing.

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So, I have a Threema license, but from what I've seen its encryption isn't post-quantum. Signal's encryption seems the strongest. I host my own matrix server.

Also, I kind of don't care where the servers are or which provider it is. Everything is encrypted anyway.

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I have an old Samsung notebook, it has been with me for more than 10 years. In recent years I had to change the OS from Windows 8.1 to Linux (KDE Neon), the change has been great and it is running better than ever. The thing is, no matter how much I make change the software, the hardware remains the same. I would like to make some improvements, but from what I have seen, I would only be able to change the SSD it has for a larger one and little more, since the RAM is part of the motherboard.

However, is it possible to expand it or change it for more RAM? I think I have seen that it was possible, buT more delicate and complicated, is it true? Would it be worth to look for someone who can make the upgrade?

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submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by eldavi@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 
 

I can see that sh.itjust.works has a conservative community like lemm.ee and lemmy.world does; but I'm not able to access it from lemmy.ml via federation. Does this mean that Lemmy now capable of federating at a community level?

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I know depression usually has a grave cause and astronauts have quite an active schedule. But say their family dies. Depression makes you think and perceive time differently. Surely wouldn't it become a risk to the mission? You can't steamroll over it...

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Is there a way to specify fewer posts from a community without leaving/turning off posts completely?

I have a few that seem to overwhelm my feed, and while I’d like to see some content, I’d rather it not drown everything else out.

TIA.

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Are they real?

Are they effective?

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When people ask whether or not they believe ghosts or aliens exist, they typically point to something that is somewhat tangible as proof such as "the government says it is real" or "this video explains it all". I think these responses are valid, but with low confidence in what they're trying to prove. A government can simply be making stuff up and a video explaining it could of simply been misinformed into some false truth.

On the contrary, I think they exist because of statistical improbability. I see that there are an uncountable amount of videos claiming to have recorded proof for ghosts and aliens. Assuming that 99% of them are hoaxes, clout chasers, or misidentified phenomena, that still leaves 1% of all those videos to be true. As long as the percentage is not 100%, it means that there is solid proof out there, weak in confidence or not, it's a lead to the truth.

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In media, there are sometimes stories where a person is cloned/duplicated (usually with identical memories) and the clone is murderous towards the original. Usually it's something like "I knew there could be only one of us, and you would do the same". Sometimes, they're able to work things out and can share a single public identity, or duplication gives one copy a chance to do go off and live a new life that they always wanted.

How would you and your duplicate get along? Assume you are living like you do today, in a society where duplication is unheard of and has no legal precedent.

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Just wanted to prove that political diversity ain't dead. Remember, don't downvote for disagreements.

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If you've got nothing nice to say, go the fuck away. I'm instantly blocking shitheads who want to poke fun at this for their own amusement. You lead sad little lives.

I am probably the last of the group of people that were some of the early adopters of the internet. The internet didn't fully become public and more accessible until 1994, I didn't start using the internet until 1996. I am nearing 30 years old on the internet by next year. People from my group, we've seen it all by this point.

We've seen the internet at it's infancy, as it developed, the explosion of it's usage, the dot com bubble burst, Web 1.0, Web 2.0, Flash's death and the ongoing enshittification of the internet today as we know it.

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For me, commercial social medias: they make money by spreading hate, violence, authoritarianism and misinformation.

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Time box chatting is the art of cutting a conversation that bores you without the other part feeling offended. I need to master this art for the workplace.

Context: This post is intertwined with my last one about how extroverts function. The most upvoted post is about how this is not an intro-extroversion issue, but antisocial-social one. Another one is about how matching communication styles with coworkers lowers walls and the recommended way is to time box chat. There are coworkers I don't need to practice this charade with because they're genuine and are, like me, analytical and not needy. The problem I have with are the emotional ones, to me still childish.

If tomorrow at the workplace I ask one of the emotional ones how is she doing, she's going to believe I'm either f*cking with her, I’m trying to sell her something, I'm having some kind of seizure or I'm on drugs. These are people I have nothing in common with, so I don't know how the conversation should go after initial contact. Just a sample of what they talk about:

"I like your eyelashes so much"

"I'm getting an IUD so I can have sex with my boyfriend without condoms"

"you have so pretty shoes"

"you don't have a boyfriend? I'll help you get one"

It’s never 2 minutes of conversation and let’s get to work, it’s at least 30 minutes, longer if they decide to go smoking and my boss belongs to this group and enjoys the attention. What past me did is stay there like a moron, not contributing because what the heck am I supposed to say to any of that? and eventually leave to work on my own, because they bore me. And they felt offended when I did that. The longest I can listen to this kind of inane conversation is 30 seconds. I don’t believe I can make the 2 minute mark. And even if I make it to the 2 minute mark I don’t want it to be longer than that and I don’t want them talking to me after those 2 minutes.

Kudos to all introverts and quiet ones who can navigate this. I cannot.

ETA: drama is the only reason why I’m quitting this job, I already have a new one elsewhere, effective in 4 weeks, so this is the perfect time to experiment with whatever you can think of because I have nothing to lose.

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