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As you may know, I moved to using my blahaj.zone account almost exclusively, as I kinda disliked the vibe I was getting from .world. At the same time, I also want to gage the feelings people have about the migration. Will you continue to use 196 on lemmy.world? Are you happy with the change? I want to hear from you:
You know whats interesting with all this is while Ada is getting brought up a lot in contrast to the 196 mods, I actually think there's a mod on fedi that gives an example of how to handle this kind of thing better. Db0 is not perfect per se because no one is, but I can't think of a more transparent mod off the top of my head (though Beehaws has defederated a few larger instances where they may be). When he(?) wants to do something he just asks his users how they feel. He writes a lot of blogs about whats happening in his community and since he has a hand developing some of Lemmy's tech hes sure to let you know if a user-affecting change is coming. He's not perfect but he's got what I would dub integrity. This might be putting it on thick but I myself have modded a very small (low dozens) community and I've felt the burn of a lack of communication that moss is feeling now and its avoidable. Db0 does get into trouble with his users, but clearly he's actually in it for them.
Db0 and I got into a personal disagreement that was vaguely related to the instance I’m on (theirs) and with other mods/admins it probably would of led to me immediately being kicked out rather than just an agree to disagree resolution.
I’m happy on that instance so far. Much better than world.
Aw! These kind of comments make it all worth it!
In case you're curious, the way I usually go about things, is that I want my actions to signal that I want my users to not only feel protected by me (and the other instance admins) but also protected from me. It's why I always default to the strongest copyleft licenses for my work, and why I keep asking peeps what they think about potential decisions.
I feel a lot of the time people get in the mindset that taking top-down decisions "for the good of the community" cuts away a lot of the red tape and keeps things moving quickly. This is especially true in auth-left instances. And while that can be quite true when one is making decisions that happen to agree with their communities, eventually, everyone makes one that doesn't. The problem when you're used to taking decisions top down because "you know better", you start seeing any dissent as haters or reactionaries (depending on your perspective), and by the time one realizes that,no, actually this is a popular sentiment, you have a shitstorm on your hands.