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Lot of them (at least of prior generations) internalized that misogyny and think it's their place. Disgusting to see.
Set up audio for a Bible study of 70+ year old women. Shit you not the video they were watching said "you know sometimes our moods are like the cloths in our closets"
The look in the crowd was not horror but nodding along.
The 50 sonething feminist coworker was mortified.
Dumbass here. What does that phrase about moods and clothes mean? that a proverb ?
Like a woman's feelings are as trivial as changing clothes
Or that they need to be able to change moods at will to suit the situation, instead of being allowed to express their feelings. Ever.
Or they got plenty of em and switch em frequently.
How ever one reads the statement, it's making the connection that female emotions are something different then malr emotions and that is just silly. Its just that woman are raised to deal differently with them as men do and neither way is healthy for any of those genders.
When I was in healthcare a co-worker and I were chatting with a patient while setting up a blood draw. She said she was in an engineering program at (local school).
My co-worker told her how brave she was because "You know us women aren't good at math."
My co-worker was a 40 something nurse practitioner with three daughters. You just know this otherwise very smart woman is going to pass that thought disease down to her kids.
that's the thing with hegemony. it's so pervasive in how it programs you that you don't even see it. you're not even aware there are alternatives until someone jostles you awake. we live in a patriarchal white supremacist christofascist society. the enforcers of this status quo don't all even understand that these are not genetically imparted truths inherent to our living situations, but rather social constructs enforced on us.
and i'm sure i have hegemonic blind spots too. i try my best to see out into the world and hear perspectives that aren't my own so i can have access to the full truth. i fall short sometimes. none of us can see all things everywhere. the best you can do is have patience with sleep walkers who are non violent threats, protect people from violent threats, and be open to the idea that you can be wrong, and hope that by living with kindness and compassion you can do your part to create the enlightened society we all dream of, even the christofascist followers, where all are free.
I don't have enough and I have no fashion sense? Surprisingly accurate analogy for me. /hj