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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Patience requires time, which means people need to feel as though they aren't constantly overworked.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 weeks ago

So, yes, people need to feel that way, absolutely. But... people can't expect that some magical event is going to come along and produce patience within them, or make the world stop so that they can have time to develop some patience... if you're waiting for something external, you will always be waiting.

I disagree with you, actually - patience doesn't require time, patience makes time - patience is what happens when you make time for someone else. For patience to exist, you have to stop what you're doing, what is important for you in that moment, and focus on what is important for someone else... and I'm not suggesting that's an easy thing to do, right?

Patience is a practice. It's not something that you have, it's something that you do, and you become capable of doing it by practicing (and, you know, failing, a lot).

I like Thich Nhat Hanh's book Peace Is Every Step. He describes this better than I can:

We can smile, breathe, walk, and eat our meals in a way that allows us to be in touch with the abundance of happiness that is available. We are very good at preparing to live, but not very good at living. We know how to sacrifice ten years for a diploma, and we are willing to work very hard to get a job, a car, a house, and so on. But we have difficulty remembering that we are alive in the present moment, the only moment there is for us to be alive. Every breath we take, every step we make, can be filled with peace, joy, and serenity. We need only to be awake, alive in the present moment.