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For the real gist: I was trying to put what I saw travelling with my declining mum and the chaos in different words badly.
It was exhausting travelling with her and I feel bad that it was exhausting.
Would recommend having a chat with her GP if possible and maybe getting an assessment of her current status and a full review of her regular medication if any.
This is bearing in mind that some chronic medication causes outward signs that can look like dementia. Lots of medications are fine by themselves, but don't combine well. A review every few years is a really really good idea. Toxicity from competing medications is a real thing and a huge problem for older people, particularly those who trust their doctor a bit more than they maybe should. Include any herbal supplements or vitamins in that list of medications. Some of these don't play nicely with each other either.
It definitely sounds like something you should bring up with her GP or some other medical professional asap.
Yea. Had a chat before and said the crew staff were worried and checking on you because they hadn't seen someone do that (snatch a boarding pass) before (as we know QANTAS folk are old and been there for a while) and she was offended and said 'it's always my fault'.
I feel bad for bringing it up. The hostess at he end said she (mum) was so sweet.
I'm going to have to adjust how I approach these things i think. I just didn't see it properly until now.
I’m a bit brain-dead atm so can’t find the right words, but do want to say I have some idea of what you’re going through.
My dad had dementia and it took me a while to realise something more than just ‘old age’ was wrong, because I wasn’t spending days with him at a time, and the symptoms come and go.
There could also be other things that might cause unusual symptoms (uti’s for example) so a general checkup to rule things out would be a good idea, if you can get your mum to go.
As others have suggested, keeping records can give you greater insight into what’s happening and when, which might shed some more light on things.
Real tough one mate. I think you first need to consider whether she's at risk of harming herself or others. If not, things can chill for a bit, and in the meantime see if you can get some monitoring happening - professional ideally.