Them: turns on lights Why are you in the dark?
Me: Huh? What time is it? Yeah, I'll eat after this part. Almost done.
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Not neuro divergent. If you turn the lights on when I am sitting in the dark you will officially be on my shit list. It is entitled behavior and you should be punished.
Do you have an app for your shit list? I've been Google Keep for my lists, but seeing there if there are other options that work better for me.
gravely castigated i say
persona non grata
Fuck people who turn on the light, they give me a headache and burning eyes
Fuck the Big Light™
For real. I get migraines and one or my big triggers is lights being too bright. With good old Sol being the worst offender. Luckily everyone else in my house is some flavor of autistic/ADHD so pretty much everyone agrees.
Fuck the Big Light™
Indirect lighting or bust
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This has the same energy as:
- "Who are you?"
- "Who? Who is but the form following the function of what and what I am is a man in a mask."
- "Well I can see that."
- "Of course you can, I’m not questioning your powers of observation, I’m merely remarking upon the paradox of asking a masked man who he is."
It's been too long since I saw V for Vendetta apparently. It definitely sounded like V but I had no memory of that line until I looked it up.
V was absolutely on the spectrum..
The hyperfixations were real. Verily, his vichyssoise of verbiage would've taken about as much prep work as any of his actual plots.
I've never actually watched it, but it's been on my list for years and years.
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Thanks to this post I now identify as a lost bat. I consider it a marked improvement.
I identify with this because of my ADHD.
But also, because ADHD, I spent about 15 minutes in a "does not compute" loop because bats can see perfectly well in the dark, so using them as an analogy involving something being lost and helping them by turning the lights on is just not making sense to me.
I've broken out of the loop, but I still am not sure why "bats"
A lost bat might get trapped in a dark room. While they wouldn't be bothered too much by the dark ( like everyone else, they need at least a bit of light to see using their eyes ), they could use echo sounding to figure out the room fairly well. But they still would be unable to open the door or window to escape, so still trapped or "lost".
My attempt at an interpretation. 😅
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Bats don't need light therefore a light switch have no meaning for them. Lost referres more to the human than the bat side.
They're bats, because they are perfectly comfortable in the dark. It's the 'lost' bit that's a mystery
"trying to remember why I came in here and the light makes it hard to remember"
Showers in the dark are underrated.
I can't see without my glasses anyway, why bother with lights?
My eyesight is so bad I have to shower with my glasses on. I've astigmatism in one eye and I'm really short sighted. My mother who was blind in one eye and had short sightedness was actually able to see better than me.
Am I the only one would prefers the place to be very very bright (not white light, but lots of warm lights)? At least when I want to be awake... night time needs to be super dark for sleeping and being restful, the morning needs brightness to get me up or I feel in a funk. It may also be exacerbated from the 'comedown' of my meds, but if I had electric blinds again or if I could have someone open my curtains for me in the morning to get me up, I would definitely do it.
Full of sunlight, yes. Light bulbs..nah
this, a lot of places have TERRIBLE lighting, if they had proper modern LED bulbs with good CRI that replicate sunlight i would actually enjoy them.
Even better if they have giant panels that literally look like sunlight shining through a window, like this: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6bqBsHSwPgw
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We (aspies) tend towards binaries. We like it either very dark, or fully lit up. We either need silence, or lots of loud noise.
I know I have mental issues with "shades of grey" thinking, and it seems to be common. My personal work around is closer to newspaper print, a mix of completely black and completely white that approximates grey. It tends to annoy a lot of people, I dissect things a lot more than (apparently) necessary.
Yeah. I'm the neurodivergent person who usually turns on the light when they come into work. All my coworkers seem to enjoy dwelling in darkness (and cONsErVe eNErGy) but I apologize in case I'm waking anyone up and flip that switch anyway. We get a lot of visitors and the place shouldn't look like a frigging bat cave. Plus, I need the energy that the light gives me, like you said.
We get a lot of visitors and the place shouldn’t look like a frigging bat cave.
A genuine laugh here, that's me, too. The energy saved is minimal.
Sometimes I like it to be light and sometimes I like it to be dark.
I'm the same. I hate dark rooms, they make me sleepy and downbeat. I prefer natural light, but any light is better than sitting in a dark room. I also prefer to sleep in a room that's not totally dark and have no issues with sleeping in a moderately light room. I don't like pitch black darkness, makes me feel uneasy.
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Tell some of my coworkers that.
I've made peace with it but I always internally laugh at people finding someone in a dark room and deciding they couldn't have turned the light on themselves or something.
I actually just didn't notice it get dark tbh
I often just forgot to turn it on, to be perfectly fair.
You're not forgetful...You're efficient, don't have to worry about turning it off.
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Does being in the dark help people with ADHD? My daughter has ADHD, but she hates being in the dark. She even sleeps with a ton of LED lights on all over her room. Is that sort of the same thing even though it's light rather than dark? A neurodivergent way to be more comfortable?
I feel much more comfortable in dark rooms, with dark mode screens and quiet.
I am ADHD and ASD though, and it's ASD that leads to sensory overload conditions that make the dark, quite rooms help me a ton.
My pediatrician has told me that boys with ASD have a 90% chance of having ADHD, and its fairly common for girls as well, though not near 90%.
I suppose, since ASD diagnosis is difficult in more subtle cases and it costs a fair amount of time and money that there are a ton of folks diagnosed with ADHD that are also ASD and don't realize it.
I would say it depends on the person. I prefer dark rooms over bright ones, but not everyone does.
For me it's usually that the light level was acceptable when I entered the room and those conditions may have changed since then, but not enough to make it worth walking over to the light switch.
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No shit, but that is not a neurodivergent issue. If I'm viving in a given lighting and someone changes the lighting without proper warning I'm gonna get pissed.
As always, this is a boundaries, respect and communication issue.
The dark means I don't have things to do
Every time I get to work first and I’m working in the dark this happens.
Like it’s not really that dark we have massive windows letting in sunlight. I don’t need the light on.
Oh! You don't mean that kind of dark room!
Instant destruction of photos
I see everyone else also grew up with my parents! 🫠
I do this because it gratifies my photic sneeze fetish
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