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I had to do fuckin research for that title
I saw a stand up recently do one of my fave gags in a while:
men hate when women wear band t-shirts and don't know the songs, but will wear floral prints and not know the names of any of the flowers.
He only needed to ask if she wanted to go see a game with him, no one who doesn't love baseball will want to.
Baseball's a great date night because there's plenty of time to talk and chill in between plays and innings.
But you do need to have some kind of chemistry.
Kinda horrible first date though because it's several hours and if it's an MLB game tickets might be a bit expensive to drop on "wait you have a dog? Eww."
This doesn't work all the time. Wife hates baseball but loves ballpark nachos. So she likes going to games but not for the baseball.
And then there's cricket...
There are two types of people: People who are open to receiving new information about the world, including information about people they are interacting with. Their reaction is something along the lines of, "Oh, that's cool, I didn't know that. I'm going to go with the assumption that you're not just lying to my face or just wrong about everything, or something along those lines, an assumption I would have arrived at for no reason at all."
Then there's the other type of person, who regards new information as an attack, against which a defense must be mustered.
I wish I met more people who were the first type. I’m so used to keeping info to myself around new people because I don’t wish to make enemies since most people I meet are the second type.
There was a point in martial arts training when I started to be the upper belt to my partners more frequently, and for the first time I started to be the one answering questions rather than asking them.
The best lesson I learned from this is that I usually learned more while I was teaching. People would ask me “why do we do X” and even though I basically knew the answer I wouldn’t be able to articulate it, and the quest for that articulation would force me to really think about the answer in ways that I hadn’t before.
Long story short there: I learned that there is always an opportunity to learn, and that I never knew as much as I thought I did. These were so damn useful to me in not being that second kind of person. I wish everyone could have that experience.
It's a pretty common saying that the best way to learn is to teach, so this anecdote can definitely apply across the board.
I think it stems from the "I have to be the boss" mentality. If someone tells you something, and you learn from them, then they are the master and you are the learner, and to some people that is intolerable no matter how accurate it is, or how trivial the scenario.
That’s a strange way of going about life in my opinion. Very authoritarian and hierarchical sounding to me. No one has all the information so no one can be the boss. If someone has new info that you don’t have, that doesn’t make them an authority over the other person.
It’s very one dimensional thinking. Can’t stand it.
It usually stems from insecurity. People who actually are the boss are perfectly comfortable with someone who knows more than them about some particular area (like for example the life details of their own life).
I read a pretty sad article by a person who was trying to run educational seminars, and was running into an issue where almost everyone from this one particular culture was apparently so caught up in macho-thinking that they were more or less impossible to teach. The teacher would ask a question, and if someone was wrong they would tell them and tell them the right answer, and from that day forward that student would be the enemy. They would glower at the teacher, talk to them after class about how they embarrassed him in front of everyone, never answer questions again. Or maybe they would refuse to accept the answer the teacher was giving, and start arguments about it where they had to be right. Stuff like that. The end conclusion was "I am really trying not to be prejudiced about this, but it really feels like trying to run seminars in this locality is just a waste of time because they are almost universally hostile to the idea of ever learning anything, even from a clearly identified and accepted authority figure."
This sounds like where I live haha. Why I don’t really tell anyone anything anymore.
most people I meet are the second type.
yeah right theres no way thats true prove it
How would you propose someone online proves their lived experience to another random person online?
I’m all ears.
sorry sometimes i get defensive in response to new information
Worryingly we may all be both types. The problem is that we’re typically the first when the new information aligns with the world as we think we understand it, and the second when it conflicts. Information that calls into question our understanding of the world around us makes us feel threatened and through that threat activates our fight or flight instincts. Since we can’t run from information we’ve already heard the only choice is to fight back against it either publicly or in our own minds.
Bullet dodged! Who wants to date someone who's into sports?
Me
Gross
What’s the play here, the options are you discredit and annoy her, or don’t discredit and annoy her, with bonus looking like an idiot as well?
Someone chose necessary violence and puns for stupid men.
Now it would be hilarious if the women was named Marlin. Double pun right there.
You like cycling? Name every tour de France winner that didn't use drugs.
That's a trick question, the answer is there is no winners.
Insert meme: "That's on me, I should have set the bar higher"
Guy trying to be picky with a name like Marlin.
i think "marlins" is another team name, it's a fish species
He's looking for his son, Nemo
Am huge fan of baseball here let me list them for you.
The Pittsburgh peelers
Jersey dangers
The Stamford slammers
The Springfield Stealers
The Boston mavericks
The Provincetown baseball enthusiasts
The actual original names of baseball teams are fun. Almost all of these teams changed names (or locations) since their founding. The Atlanta Braves used to be from Boston, where they were the Boston Braves (much better alliteration). Meanwhile, Miami gained alliteration because they just used to be the Florida Marlins.
The Phillies were known as the Phillies pretty much from the beginning, but their official name was the Philadelphia Ball Club Limited. But that was a mouthful so they were nicknamed the Phillies (and also the Quakers).
The team that's now the Washington Nationals used to actually be Canadian: the Montreal Expos (named after Expo '67). Seems a bit weird to me that the baseball team in the US national capital is a transplanted Canadian team.
Also, while looking this up, I found probably the worst-named team ever. The Philadelphia Phillies came to be because the league needed an 8th team to balance things after this other team was dropped from the league. Its hometown was too small to support a pro team. But, it did do some historic things before it folded, like being the first pro team to visit Cuba in 1879 and having the first pitcher in MLB history to throw a perfect game, but it wasn't because they were an amazing team. They also set a record as the first team to be defeated at home without even a single hit.
The name of this historically interesting team? The Worcester Worcesters. Also, if things were pronounced then as they are now, that would have been pronounced "The Woostah Woostahs"
I appreciate your research lol
I miss the Elbows. 😕