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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

well, time for me to try out shrooms ig

[–] [email protected] 69 points 6 days ago (1 children)

My dead sir, you're bisexual

[–] [email protected] 55 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Dead

He will be if his girl finds out and they arent in an open relationship

[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Even if they are, a lot of people "get the ick" about gay men when they have to deal with them close and personally, not even bisexual women are exempt from this.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

a lot of people "get the ick" about gay men when they have to deal with them

Man, I'm not even bi and I feel annoyed at the bi erasure here. Mainly because I grew up with a bisexual mother who claimed guys couldn't be bisexual and were just gay guys pretending.

Not saying it was intentional, seeing that just brought up a lot of annoying memories....

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Sorry for the imprecise language. I'm a bi man myself and I'm usually better about this ... should have used some variant of men loving men.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 6 days ago

I've never had a problem with it, because I just view it as the trash taking itself out.

This circumstance is pretty fake though

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

lmao, that was a great typo

[–] [email protected] 55 points 6 days ago

Sexuality is a spectrum. All that trying to make sexual preference binary does is make people stressed out.

Shrooms made them feel free and live the moment. They shared an amazing moment in time. It doesn't have to be or mean more than that.

[–] [email protected] 52 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Now I want to go around saying “im normal i have girl”, but nobody would get the reference.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 days ago

i am normal and can be trusted with cheeseburger

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 days ago

My friends and I say it all the time lol

[–] [email protected] 42 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Men and comphets are wild. The guy cheated on his girlsfriend and he is still panicking about himself and if he is gay rather than the harm to her. Dickhead

[–] [email protected] 63 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Devils advocate here, but depending on the relationship, a seismic shift in my own identity might be more urgent to think thru than how it affects someone I just started dating.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I would argue the issue to be communication. It is his responsibility to communicate his needs with her before violating her boundaries. Its a consent violation at the end of the day.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I mean, he was high on shrooms and had no idea he liked dick X3 this is for sure not a dickhead situation :P

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

I mean he gave a dick head so...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

"It's not my fault, I was drunk."

[–] [email protected] 16 points 6 days ago

the shit that happens when you force people to deny their sexuality. not condone, but this happens, this is real, we should deal with it.

[–] modifier 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)

But honestly saliva sex is my favorite though so I can relate.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Read it as salvia (divinorum) sex and I was like hell yeah but this is cool too

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

That sounds terrifying actually lmao