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I’m attracted to very few women, if at all, but I’ve been saying I’m a lesbian/bi.

Welcome, fellow lesbians. And is anyone here attracted to men like I am?

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

I really don't like men, and not for lack of trying!

Masculine women though... Oh yeah. ♥️

NB folks, it depends.

Nothing wrong with liking men though!

By the way, it's totally valid to want to claim bisexual if you're still mostly attracted to men. Even a small amount of attraction to women is attraction.

I've heard of some folks using the term "bisexual lesbian." I'm not all too sure what that means but just something to think about.

If you're looking for other labels that might fit you, sapphic might be one to consider too.

Lastly, if you find all attraction to be not very strong, you might look to see if you're on the ace spectrum.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

first of all i would just like to say that everybody is welcome here, as long as they act respectfully.

second, anybody who tried to define another persons queer experience and tell them they have to be a part of some orientation is not welcome here. only you get to define what you are,

as for me, i consider myself a lesbian, although i suppose there is the possibility i could find myself attracted to a man, and enbys are normally an option for me. i say this because when i think about all the men i have ever met,and i dont want to be in a relationship with a single one of them, the only men i can think of that i would want to be with romantically are fictional, in theory im attracted to men, but i have never had it proven to me in the wild.

where as on the other hand, i cant get enough of women. i think about them constantly, they give me all the wonderful weird feelings, and even if i dont personally think i would be a good fit with some, i can totally see why some people would fall for them. however thats rare because i crush on so many girls. basically the total opposite of how i view men romantically.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

this is me with women too!! (though i would date enbies, and i may date men if i meet the right one but so far i am not attracted to them and my male exes have been negligent/cheating assholes so… which is not to say they all are, but still.)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I’d hate for you to feel you can’t be honest with people. If you aren’t sure, then remember - people are really complicated. You and I included.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Zero attraction to men. I have friends who are men - they all happen to be gay and it's the way that they carry and express themselves that I enjoy, but straight men... I just absolutely can't with. It's less about their orientation and more the impact our culture has had on them. That's not to say I've not meant incredibly sweet ones, but I'd almost always rather have no company than company with them 🤷‍♀️ Women though...I can gush on and on! The way they sound, move, smell, aesthetically represent themselves and their spaces, care for one another, overcome all the challenges we face, and just exist in general. Women are harmony to me while men are just bass, but plenty of people love bass, and plenty of people love both - absolutely nothing wrong with that 🩷

[–] Fiivemacs 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Ummm sorry to burst your bubble but bass literally is harmony. It provides harmonic and rhythmic support to the band or orchestra.

You can't be harmony without an instrument unless you're writing it, at which point the bass player would be the one to then deliver the harmony for all to enjoy. Very few appreciate the written harmonic notes compared to the audible harmonic notes.

Like, I kinda get when you're trying to say but I figured I'd at least pass along that info so you can potentially revise your view on harmony and bass, or not. Obviously upto you. Stay safe out there please.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

No, I'm only into women. Potentially some enbies, but mostly women.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

not me lol. this place looks like it’s for anyone, even if you’re not a lesbian, but i happen to be a full-on lesbian, so i’m not into men.