Congratulations!!! I would recommend a nice long engagement. Love is beautiful so make the engagement commitment. But you will need some more time together before you make a legal commitment. But nothing wrong for being engaged for a while before starting the wedding planning. Best of luck
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I agree. I’m going to try for a year or two of being engaged, maybe more.
Always a great idea in your twenties. Congratulations!!!!
Oh man... look, best of luck and all, and I know the whole uhaul thing is a trope, but you have plenty of time for marriage. You're so young. Seriously, if It's only been a few dates so far, you're putting way too much pressure on a very new romance!
That makes sense :)
I’ve known her for years, that’s why I trust this so much 😅
Hi! I'm gay and engaged to my long term friend. I recommend holding off on any serious expectations like marriage until you've lived together and shared a bed for a while, 6 months at least. You really don't know how a relationship will go until you're around each other ALL the time. You will see each other at your very best and very worst. You'll get in arguments about inconsequential stuff, because sometimes one of you is tired or cranky or had a bad day. You need to learn how you communicate and resolve conflicts as a couple, not just as friends. My fiancee is my best friend first, and always will be, but we had to learn how we work as partners.
I'm so so happy you've found love and with someone that you're already friends with, but I think you need to be very careful about putting too much pressure on this relationship. It will go better without the pressure, and you're less likely to run into disillusionment when things get harder, which they will. Give yourselves time to find out who you are together before making the lifelong commitment, even though that may be your goal the entire time. It certainly was for us.
Thank you so much! After all, we’ve only taken it to the next level a week or two ago.
Dating is not the same thing situation as being friends. Living together isn't the same thing as dating even. I wish you the best of luck, but as a random on the Internet who knows nothing about you or your situation - marriage doesn't have to mean anything. You can have everything marriage can give you without the legal work of marriage and personally I think striving for that is the best green flag a couple can have.
So true! The amount myself and my friends changed over time, especially in our 20s was just incredible. I would definitely suggest a long engagement just to fully feel things out. As adults, it's super helpful to see how people handle career stress, highly emotionally charged events like loss, and just shifting interests in life. I do wish them the best of luck 🩷 Being in love can be so magical, but also tends to take work.
I am excited for you ! You go girl 💖