Fediverse

I usually try to until the other person shows me that there's no reason to be.

@Cris_Color

offtopic:
Test to see if from here it is possile to engage the friendica server of @utopiarte and @requeteche.

btw and ontopic:

Speaking past each other is IMO the biggest source of friction and division on the fediverse.

I honestly feel like I can do better in this area. Thanks for the post. Gives me something to think about.

Love this post!

We also need people sharing their niche interests and creating discussion... Reddit thrives on these small communities that only find an accessible entrypoint on their platform.

I have mysteriously vanished for like 2 or so months now (which is a good thing, please take breaks from the internet every once in a while), I don't really remember NOT being kind here.

And this post reminds me of why Lemmy is a good place to begin with.

Okay I agree, so let's start from Linux related any post, tell them if somebody asks a problem don't tell them just install mint , or how one is crazy because they are facing the problems in Linux or if you are not using Linux what idiot are you. I stopped participating because

1. Linux dude bros are just idiots troubling me
2. I can't find content which is though not niche is just is plain not news or Linux
3. It's very confusing to use fedverse as I don't know of i can go all subs via my boost app or do i need something else , if so where to access them.

So let's make it ACCESSIBLE, NON DERAGORTY FOR ANON LINUX USERS ALSO

Yeah try telling people here to be kind

This place is still nicer then reddit but it's still got problems with a**hole users

• The ones that spam a certain viewpoint amd downvote people who disagree with them and I'm not talking about bigoted users who you should downvote as they want dystopia but users who have different viewpoints to them

• People who act like assholes if you don't share their holier-than-thou viewpoint that they try to enforce everywhere

• The users here who insist everyone here be atheists, I'm not atheist nor am I religous (I also have a dislike for organised religons) but I still do dislike those kinds of users

• The people here who act like like a**holes when you critique something or give feedback

I'm sure there's more I'm missing but those are what I remember from the top of my head that I dislike about certain lemmy users and why I think not everyone here is capable of being kind

I disagree with your premise.

It should be "The best thing that you can do for humanity is to be kind".

Seriously. We're living in a time when fascism is in an upswing and at least one religious leader has publicly called empathy a sin. Kindness and empathy are rebellious acts.

Fuck you!

Best I can do is rewind.

I'll add: "be supportive and helpful if you can, and just shut up if you can't".

Fediverse is sometimes suffering from the same kind of people that Linux has - "oh you have a problem? Well, here's the GitHub repo and a project Wiki, figure it out".

This applies to real life as well. Results may vary.

So I can't be myself?

On the one hand, yes, yes, yes, absolutely.

On the other hand, way too often people are absolutely vile here and nobody sticks up for themselves or for others. Really a shame that r-word-it bullshit behavior is often times totally accepted and approved and even rewarded here.

Sometimes being kind doesn't necessarily mean being nice.

When I see small, I see potential. More people know each other which fosters genuine relationships and understanding, ingredients missing from the toxic environments of the big social networks.

My ex used to call me a very small dude with a big city attitude. She didn't mean it as a compliment, but I took it as one.

The fediverse is just a beautiful place to be you. It feels calm, relaxed, intellectual and full of supportive people. It's a refreshiong alternative to the sprawling and sometimes impersonal nature of vast social networks.

One thing we should all agree on, we all have a role to play in shaping the culture of this space.

The thing that I appreciated most about Lemmy and my transition from Reddit is how cordial everyone has been. Even if a comment is taken out of context, people tend not to jump down each others throat and assume the worst, or make bad faith arguments full of fallacies. I've had legitimate back and forths with people, something that basically never happens on Reddit.

This place is becoming very Reddit, if you post anything that deviates from someone’s beliefs they call you names and insult your intelligence. So many people can’t have a debate or discussion without jumping to personal attacks and hate. It’s really disheartening. I love political debate but there’s no such thing anymore, only name calling

I arrived at LEMMY after what I think we very optimistically called the Reddit Collapse. We wish. And I had toe in LEMMY and a few others at Reddit.

Recently with their abusively patronizing redesigning and gamification and just ugly bullshit, I can’t stomach Reddit at all. So LEMMY grows increasingly important, not just to me but to folks who haven’t yet even heard of it.

So, I’ll just say thanks for your post here. I have, I confess, engaged with a couple bullies on LEMMY and I always try to say… I don’t like to do this on LEMMY— and I say that precisely for the reasons you mention.

And as you encourage: I will try to be kinder, even in when feeling… hmm… less than kind.

I disagree, yes being kind is very important but even more important is people engaging and upvoting comments.

Reddit was great because of what happened in the comment section, not the headliners, and I see very little voting engagement even in active posts.

Remember, it's free to do and it encourages others to engage as well. But yea be kind too

Tell that to the people who make a dozen sockpuppet accounts to insult me just because I disagreed with them.

Everyone's been really nice as long as I don't touch anything political - then it becomes a fart sniffing smug fest.