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What if it were 100? Or 1000? or 10000? or 100000?

At what point do you ask questions?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 52 minutes ago
[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Saying 'no questions asked' is weird saying in most situations.

Honestly if anyone I'm in good terms with came to me and was like 'can I have 10$? ' I would just give it to them and resume my things cause I probably don't even want to know or care what they'll do with it.

I mean, whats the worst you could do with 10$

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

I had an addict friend hit me up for $10 and I didn’t know he relapsed and he died from the bad heroin he bought with that $10.

Point being, that’s prob the worst you can do with $10.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 minutes ago

I stand corrected. So sorry to hear that and for your loss. I'll be more thoughtful in the future

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago (2 children)

If I have a $10 bill in my wallet, I would give it to literally anybody who asked me.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Sure... stop by, I'll give it to you!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 12 hours ago

Awesome! I'll buy plane tickets and let you know when I depart.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

That explains why you never have any money to pay me back, man.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Nobody. What on earth could you possibly need money for without giving some sort of explanation

[–] [email protected] 31 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I'm in England and have no dollars, so the answer is 'none'.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

Alright here's a more local analogue: how many chavs would you offer a ciggy to if they approached you in your council flat? 1? 10? 100,000?

If one of them is named Kev and knew your mate's sister, and all but one were wearing Adidas or Nike, would that double or halve your generosity?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I used to be able to count it down to the millisecond exactly when a strange chav would ask me for a cigarette.

"In 3...2...1..." "oi mate you got a spare fag I can borrow"

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

Never understood that phrasing. A spare? As in a cigarette I carry but don't need/don't plan to use? And borrow? As in youre going to take it and bring it back to me later?

I know I'm being too literal but damn it so stupid

Edit thanks for the good chuckle btw

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Same. I wasn't even over 18 at the time, and they'd still ask

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Happy to say there are no chavs round my way, nor council flats, so none.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Okay, imagine you're down at the pub, and that actor from GoT comes in surrounded by a horde of screaming girls. He clearly just wants a drink and to be left alone, but can't shake off the fans. The bar stool next to you is free, and you have an expression of utter repulsion on your face to ward off anyone. He's eyeing the seat and your face with desperation. Do you let him sit with you, or do you tell him to piss off to another pub?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I'm just a customer so he can sit there if he likes. Unless we're talking Joffrey as I couldn't deal with his horrid little face.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Okay, what about you're at the local chicken shop, and a wean comes in asking if you'll buy him some chips and a coke. You originally say no, but then three of his schoolmates come in too and one of them looks like he's holding a sharpened ruler. How many chips do you buy assuming you want to leave the shop?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't eat meat. So I wouldn't go to a chicken shop. So none.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Fine, imagine this: you're at the local Nando's getting their veggie supreme for your girl Suze, when a man in a tracksuit comes at you saying that it's his order and that he'll brap you up if you say different. You notice that his hand is down the front of his trousers, and if he's hiding anything there it's either small or non-lethal. Suze is looking at you. What do you do?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

As I don't shop at a butcher, my answer is 'none' (/s)

You can find me at the supermarket though

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I only visit the kebabi.
So none.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Okay you're at the local kebab shop, and he asks you whether you want it german-wrap style or in a pitta bread, but not once does he call you Boss during the exchange.

Do you take the kebab without leaving, or do you report him to the police for failure of duty?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Did he add a massive chili on the kebab?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

He did, yes, juiciest motherfucker you ever ate

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

I'd hand him 10 quid, no questions asked

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

I am also in England.

And whilst I would have no dollars to give, I would definitely have questions in response to such a request

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

If I've got it, I'd lend my long time best friends up to €1000 without question. I would not really expect them to pay it back. I trust that if or when they can they will. If they can't, they can't. People that are not my besties? No.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago

How about when they come for the next $1,000 not having paid back the first?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago (2 children)

In a "no time to explain" situation: most of my friends and family

If they actively refuse to explain: maybe my 2-3 closest people whom I trust they have a good reason for that kind of secrecy.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Explaining what's going on is the price you pay for free money.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I don't think this is always the case. I was asked by a woman that I was training at work if she could borrow $20 a few months ago and this was my initial response "what for?" Then my brain kicked in and I recognized that it could be for something innocuous like lunch or something else like tampons or other personal items and that it wasn't any of my business, so I told her "sorry that seemed kind of personal" and offered it to her.

If someone asked me for a more significant amount of money, I'd definitely want to know what for, but a one-time request for $20 is fairly inconsequential to me if it's someone I know.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Same for me

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago

Most of my adult friends or business acquaintances, I'd just give it to them.. if asked in person.

Only once, the second time we will have a discussion about what's going on.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

I don't think I give anything without any questions to strangers.

If we are talking friends then probably like 5 until I start wondering why they all need 10 dollars suddenly

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Zero.

If someone I know asks me for money, I'm at least asking them "what's up? Everything ok?" before giving them money.

Then after that, still probably zero because I don't have any cash in my wallet atm. So hopefully I can help in some other way, give them a lift somewhere, cover a meal, something.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well do you mean random stranger people or people in my knowledge sphere?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

The way it's worded. It's both

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

$10 without question, probably 3 or 4 but they make about the same annually as I do and we constantly pay each other back for meals or group purchases.

Over $20 I'd definitely ask why at the very least.

[–] Auli 1 points 1 day ago

Three but three specific people.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

I have a handful of friends I've lent around a grand to before, one considerably more than that. With a repayment plan set up, which was followed, but I don't really know or care what it was used for. Avoiding high interest rates on credit cards I assume.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Everyone I would give my money to would give that reason unprompted so I wouldn't have to ask.

Except kids, they might ask just to see if it works, and then I would ask to know what for.

I don't think I've ever been asked to give away something without being offered a reason, actually...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I suppose you could pose the question differently. Who would you give 10,100,1000 to if they said they needed it but they said no questions asked.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Hmm. Probably no one.

Small amounts are weird to need "no questions asked" and large amounts are too large to give away "no questions asked". Partly for me financially, but mostly because there is a not insignificant risk of overdose if you give out large sums of money to someone being cagey about why they need it.

If they can't tell me what a significant amount of money is for, it's probably because it's something I don't want my money to go to, so I'm not inclined to agree under those premises.

At the least I would need a very good reason for why I can't ask questions ("I'm preparing to vacation as a fugitive, and don't want you to have to testify"), but by then there is no longer no questions asked...

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Okay I would ask questions for any amount of money unless they tell me first. The people I feel I would easily give money are also the same people who I'd expect they tell me first why- they wouldn't be "hey mothra got some spare 100s?"

To answer your question, I would easily give 10 to about a dozen people or so, 100 to half of them and 1k+ to only 3, and for a very good reason only. I didn't even realize the number of people would halve.