this post was submitted on 21 May 2025
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[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 hours ago

I mean, that'll only let you know their dress size when they were married - which may have been years ago.

So not too different to Tinder bio photos.

[–] [email protected] 42 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

I imagine that there are a lot of cases where women would sell their wedding dress without being divorced.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

If they're selling their dress they'll probably be naked.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 16 hours ago

Duh. I've seen documentaries!

[–] [email protected] 11 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

This is the case for someone I know. One of her friends had a beautiful wedding dress that she didn't want to go to waste, so she just gifted it to her as an early wedding present. After her wedding, she did the same, passing it on. No telling where that dress is now, but I like to imagine it's still traveling the world, one wedding at a time. Also, both this woman and her friend have been married to their respective partners for over a decade, so I assume it's at least going adequately, if not well.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Note however that this dress was gifted as a sentimental wedding present to a friend. I would suppose the ones listed on Facebook marketplace are somewhat differently motivated.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago

You're probably right, but my uninformed, blind optimism tells me that they're selling it to guage demand. Then they send the money back as a wedding gift to help the couple start a new life. I have zero evidence for this, but that's my head cannon.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I bet you that dress would light up under a black light.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Do people have sex in their wedding dresses? That never occurred to me.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

What else is it for, that's why its white

[–] [email protected] 4 points 14 hours ago

That's pretty hilarious. On a serious note, I imagine people wouldn't want to take the risk of having sex in the dress before the ceremony. Afterward, getting the dress off to replace it with some exotic, strappy, crazy lingerie seems like a better idea to me. Still, whatever floats their goat, I guess.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 17 hours ago

Without being divorced... yet!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago) (1 children)

Alternative suggestion: Set up a local "Men Seeking Females" group so they can filter you right out.

Yes. You read that right.

(oh, and the above is not directed at you, @Stamets. But this belongs in c/menandfemales)

[–] [email protected] 0 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Are you pretending the language "females" & "males" is abnormal in classifieds, personals, & marketplaces?

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

If I'm not mistaken, it seems like it's more a stereotype of men that refer to themselves as men but women as females.

Idk, I could be wrong - but that's how I'm seeing it. The idea also invokes the thought of a particular type of incel.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Exactly, thank you. And no one is pretending anything here.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago)

The OP's picture has the word "men" somewhere? Seems like a joke.

The "stereotype" seems a bit of a reach & makes about as much sense as a stereotype of carrying keys. Like "carrying keys is such classic incel behavior" or "using females is incel speak": sure, if you ignore their regularity by anyone anywhere else. Seems more a failure of general observation that demands a bit of pretense to overlook & speaks volumes more about the type of person who'd repeat such ideas.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago) (1 children)

Craigslist got rid of the personal ad spaces, so I just sell my body on the For Sale>Free section. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[–] [email protected] 1 points 12 hours ago

Time to start selling mirrors.