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Just christened the new soupmaker I got for the ol' girl / boy.
Morphy richards clarity thing.
Idea was to reduce use of the stovetop for her / less cleaning / quicker and probably safer.
First up, potat and leek. Shit that thing is fast. 21 mins. Maybe 5 mins of prep, 2 mins cleaning. Don't really eat that stuff but was actually surprisingly very good. Gave maybe 3-4 serves.
If she doesn't use it it'll still save me a shitload of time and hassle.
I hope everythings started to settle down man β€οΈ
Today we are going to visit a kiwi sanctuary. π€π
here are some pics from yesterday π
I agree. Back to bed.
Mr P was supposed to go to a mate's place for a weekend of catching up with old friends, and we were all looking forward to it (me especially). But it fell through when someone Mr P doesn't like (for good reasons too lengthy to say here) kind of wormed their way in. So Mr P decided he wasn't going. Sigh. I mean, we've been getting along ok lately, but he's always here. I was looking forward to him not being here for a night or two at the start of the school holidays. I need a good night's sleep without someone going for a smoke/pee/snack every so often during the night. It's impossible in this damn place.
Neighbours are renovating, so it was banging and sawing and drilling all day. Then we ordered Maccas and they got the order wrong. No matter which Maccas I order from, or when or what I order, they always get the order wrong. It's a treat for the Minipeelers but it leaves me pissed off every time.
Now I'm relaxing in bed in a quiet darkened room sighs with contented relief. We're going to the library to return some books tomorrow so I'm looking forward to that, the calming quiet, minimal people and the smell of new library. Anyway, thanks for listening to my whinging!
Your peace time will come Lovely. And you and the kids can just breathe. I know what you're living and it takes so much strength, especially when your 'free' time is snatched away. You're doing an incredible job in a really tricky situation.
It was a great night last night. Looking forward to a great day today.
Alrighty. Going to meet the new PT.
Here's hoping he's cool and can help fix my shoulder.
In other news, the reconfiguration I mentioned a few weeks ago is going well. Mood and energy levels have stabilised. Motivation is lower than normal but not too bad.
Edit:went great with the PT! Chill guy and showed me some great stuff for my shoulder.
I wish I was rich. Iβd buy a nice big house, withdraw from society and fill it with cats.
I'd build a hermits commune with a bunch of smaller houses where we could all withdraw to.
Can I be your kind but quiet and reclusive neighbour with dense garden and big library? I can supply occasional vegetables and fruits dropped off on the doorstep.
Yes! We can swap excess
I caught public transport because I wanted to drink and while it did take a fair bit longer it's pretty peaceful not having to deal with traffic and parking.
I've played the best guitar in my life in the last 3 months. Getting off of suboxone was the right move.
The emotion to muscle memory connection/loop is so clear and strong its nuts.
this is great, so happy for you πππ€
Spent the night achievement hunting in Exp 33. I can't let go of this game!!
I am so getting that when I get back to Oz π
This jerked chicken is declared Do Not Touch Eyeballs or Cock. I repeat Do Not!
My bloke would have endorsed this - he got caught taking a wee after chopping some very hot chillies but had not washed his hands before taking that wee. His screams were impressive. The jerked chicken sounds delish.
family shit
My mum does this thing with my sister where she brings up a problem she has way after the fact. It makes my sister feel terrible.
My sister, a week ago, who has her own place but comes to visit on the weekends: Mum, I'm going to dog sit for a friend this weekend so I'll be staying over at hers
Mum: OK
My mum today: we have a dog here and you're going to sit someone else's dog? I can't even go away and have a weekend for myself because I have to watch him. He doesn't even want to go for a walk more than 100 metres!
Sister starts feeling guilty and anxious and has a panic attack. I get that my mum is sick of having to look after the dog and is annoyed, but my sister told her she was going to dogsit a week ago, and my mum said nothing about going away this weekend.
I thought my emotional regulation problems were just an innate thing, although I reckon if my parents could regulate their emotions and communicate better, it would've been a bit easier on my end.
My mum grew up in a household where her parents fought and her mum in particular cannot regulate her emotions and often goes from 0 to 100 in an instant. If this woman says anything and you disagree, she throws a fit. She has no self-awareness whatsoever.
But I hope that if I ever have kids, I break this cycle. I fear I'm already too much like the bad parts of my parents. It's not on.
Ahhh. Thatβs manipulative as hell. She refuses to communicate a want or a need and then uses the lack of it as a weapon. This isnβt about the dog, itβs about control.
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Also the things your dad says to you are emotional abuse.
Iβm sorry if Iβve ever been unintentionally insensitive towards you in the past because holy shit.
I need you to know that none of this is your fault and nothing your family thinks or says of you is true. It might be a really good idea to prioritise whatever career will be stable and well paid enough that you have the choice to move out and be independent from them.
Also you might want to know that being raised like this means youβre less likely to spot abusive people or identify behaviours as abuse. And there is a danger of you internalising it and blaming yourself for it rather than clocking it and getting out of Dodge.
Yea that sucks.
If your mum was told a week ago that's all on her. I'm sure there's probably a compromise here somewhere but your sis shouldn't feel bad about it if there's not. Sounds a bit manipulative.
When my sister is not in the office, she works from here and stays with the dog.
My mum and sister ended up talking about it, and it turns out all my mum wanted was a time that she's going to be back here after dogsitting. But it had to come out like that.
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cannot regulate her emotions and often goes from 0 to 100 in an instant. If this woman says anything and you disagree, she throws a fit. She has no self-awareness whatsoever.
I really doubt she doesn't know
I bet she can regulate very well when it's not something she wants or it's to her advantage
Today I play games all day and don't leave my apartment. Deal. (Take another recommendation for The Bazaar, deck builder type game)
Goregous, perfect day out there side from the occasional bouts of insane wind (amplified in the CBD wind tunnels). Had a perfect sleep in, no headache this time, and spent the day with a friend - treated to a lovely vegan restaurant for lunch and a nice long walk after then hojicha latte and a decadent slice of cake - came back to a tidy home that got properly aired out and gosh. What a difference the sun and a bit of warmth makes! My mood is fabulous, my nerves are calm, my body is happy and relaxed and life feels great. And the place is lovely and refreshed and I don't feel like I'm behind on life or anything. π
I didn't look at my phone all day and was enjoying watching other people on the tram - kids asking innocent questions, young people eagerly discussing their lives, blokes going on about the footy - rather than feeling annoyed and wanting to hide from the world. I even received a lovely compliment on my hair colour from an old lady who I thought was squinting at me weirdly because I was wearing the wrong thing or something... she was just trying to figure out what was going on with my hair. βΊοΈ
Chilling out with PBS at home and gonna make some headway on this library book I've started (very promising so far); tomorrow will be a great big meal prep day. Jambalaya with vegan chorizo, roast fennel, what else...
Some pics from the local museum and the beach ( I'm starting to feel gouged by museum prices )
kiwis were the cutest thing i've seen all week other than mr seagoon
pictures coming soon, right now I'm off t the beach π
After that beef ravioli, Iβm still alive and well !
That is good to hear.
If you were not alive and still posting here that would actually be a bit alarming. I'm really not ready for a zombie apocalypse.
Red Rooms (2024) movie review
A French Canadian psychological thriller (horror?)
A story about a womanβs obsession with an extremely disturbing murder trail. The accused is a man who tortures and kills young girls while live streaming on the dark web.
Itβs a hideous and creepy pretext for a horror movie, however there is absolutely no gore, or jump scare, or boogie man under the bed.
Itβs a story about Kelly-Anne (Juliette GariΓ©py). A very smart and attractive woman whose entire life starts to revolve around this trail and her fascination with the killer, the victims family, other serial killer groupies and true-crime junkies.
She is cold, calculated, and technically proficient. A cross between Patrick Bateman and Lisbeth Salander.
In the end, Kelly-Anne is able to facilitate some modicum of justice, but at a sadistic cost. The real mystery here is not the killer in the courtroom but what Kelly-Anneβs motivations are.
This isnβt a movie with clear answers and that might turn people off. Itβs a slow burn. Itβs ambiguous.
And Iβm still thinking about it.
4.5/5 Bitcoin
Well, you've piqued my interest. Might check this out tomorrow!
Goodnight all β€οΈ
Tried a new gym class this morning and while I got my ass handed to me, it feels pretty bloody good. Long way to go, but happy to make small steps!
Clear and sunny with lots of wind = good drying weather. I am loving having some decent outdoor drying space in this place, everything smells better having been outdoors and the wind helps get rid of some of the excess pet hair and dust that's always around. I've already managed to do a load of clothes and a load of towels, I now have sheets on the line and another small load of clothes in the washing machine.
Has anyone played the board games Heat or Wingspan? I heard they were good and they were on sale at EB so I picked them up. I want to make sure they don't sit on the shelf for ages and actually get played
