Asklemmy

I graduated high school in 2005, one out of some 300 of my graduating class. Had plenty of friends. Went to community college, several folks I knew from school went to the same community college, met plenty of new folks. Had plenty of friends. Transferred to university, had plenty of friends, got to know my roommates pretty close, that kind of thing.

Out of college, I disappeared into what I thought was going to be my career for a few years. When I came back up and looked around, I found myself in a different world with people that aren't people anymore, there are walking talking eating shitting cell phone stands.

I don't try to socialize for the same reason I don't go hunting for Carolina parakeets: Interpersonal relationships aren't a thing that exists in the world anymore. We killed them all and the corpse of the last one is on display behind glass at the Raleigh museum of Natural Sciences.

Yes, I feel that way sometimes. But I try to keep in mind that humans are innately social creatures, and I shouldn’t shut myself off like that. It helps to have pre-planned events with people I know I like, like playing a TTRPG or board game, or volunteering.

See how many people here share your troubles? There's no shortage of people like you. The thing is, like you say, you have to stop putting up with people's bullshit. When you notice bullshit, confront them with it, and if there's no way of reconciliation, move on immediately, don't try to "put up" with anything. From what you said it seems like you hold on to toxic people too long.

Also, have you ever thought about that you might also have "BS" that other people would have to deal with when they want to create a deep connection with you? Do sou think that's absolutely impossible?

You all had social batteries to start with.? I haven't really ever had it and haven't ever had much if at all deep connections. Not because I don't try but because people can't deal with my genetically dead social batteries.

I like infodumping, then being infodumped back at, until we arrive at some crossover subject of mutual curiousity we can discuss till the cows come home. Unfortunately while my gf loves this, my bff doesn't appreciate this tho.

My social battery is dead and been incinerated.

Social media. You use it up spending time on Reddit and Lemmy etc.

I feel this a lot. Between people moving away and turning inward, I have maybe one or two really good friends.

Nah, I'm just shy. Especially with women. I don't feel I have much to offer anyone.

I find im always just howling into the void.

If my boss is in a talkative mood by the time I get home from work I don't want to hear another human at all.