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[–] s0phia@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago

Every cat is different, some don't even enjoy things cats are supposed to.

[–] Thurgo@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

My cat will let me touch and pet him anywhere. He will get up and walk away if he's done with it. I'll roll him around on the floor like a rolling pin or play the bongos on his belly or butt. Sometimes he will want to play rough and will play bite and bunny kick my hand but it's never actual aggression.

My friends cat will let you pet him quite rough but he doesn't like his belly or back legs pet. He will gently let you know with a kind nip and a little yip sound. Hasn't been hissy or scratchy but I think it's because he knows me and we are pals.

[–] Fantismal@lemm.ee 3 points 2 years ago

Allowing belly rubs is a sign of deep trust from a cat you didn't raise, or a sign of a comfortable, secure cat with no doubts about the safety and continuation of their home and family. It's a no-no for strangers to the cat, but if your cat is letting you, it's a sign of the secure bond between you two.

The cats I raised from kittens will roll onto their backs and stretch for belly rubs when I walk into the room, but the cats I rescued are less enthusiastic about it. They all have grown to let me rub their bellies, but the one who lived outside before rescue would only ever roll onto her side tucked against me so my hand moved onto her belly, and the one from relatives will expose his belly but grumble about me petting it.

[–] theUnlikely@sopuli.xyz 2 points 2 years ago

My cat loves belly rubs. He can go for 30 minutes straight no problem, no biting or anything.

[–] kurogane@sopuli.xyz 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Some cats hate it. Some cats don't mind if you don't show any aggressivity. I have yet to see a cats that begs for belly rubs though.

[–] theUnlikely@sopuli.xyz 3 points 2 years ago (2 children)

My asks for it almost daily, but he also taught himself how to play fetch so maybe he's part dog.

[–] kurogane@sopuli.xyz 2 points 2 years ago

I stand corrected haha

[–] TheButtonJustSpins@infosec.pub 1 points 2 years ago

Our boy taught himself how to play fetch as well!

Honestly, I think he then trained me to it, if 6am most days is any indication.

[–] essjay24@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

My boy flops down on his side next to me on the couch and lifts his leg to better provide access to his belly. Every night.

[–] CheshireSnake@iusearchlinux.fyi 1 points 2 years ago

My partner's cat lets us pick him up and play with his tail, but he doesn't like belly rubs. He's very chill as long as you don't touch his belly. He lets you pet him anywhere else, though.

[–] TheGhostHybrid@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 2 years ago

We have three cats, two brothers and one girl a year older than them. Both boys love (and beg for) belly rubs so much that you could practically mop the floor with them!

The girl, however, is very skittish. (She was socialized a bit too late.) She tolerates people and whatnot, but lets you know VERY quickly when she’s done. However, she is also my cat specifically. She trusts me and loves me, and while petting her, she will very distinctly roll over, show her belly, and let me rub it while she licks me!

So, to answer your question, it can be normal for your cat to love all that attention! It mainly comes down to personality/temperament, your bond with the cat, and how much they trust you. What’s also noteworthy is that she shows you her limits, and you obey them. By doing this, you show her that you can be trusted for further petting and loving!

[–] Showroom7561 1 points 2 years ago

Yes, yes, and yes. All five of our (female) cats allow us to do all that. Male cats might be different, though.

[–] june@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

My cat fuckin loves tummy rubs. He plops on the floor on his back in front of me and eats em up without ever doing that crazy cat thing where he changes his mind and attacks, unless I explicitly provoke it. He also lets me touch his tail and has no qualms with my clipping his claws, though sometimes he just gets done sitting in my lap making the claws harder to clip. But if I get him I. The right state he just dgaf and let’s me clip them all.

He dgaf about catnip tho

[–] Ataraxia@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago
[–] renrenPDX@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

A lot of what you hear is mostly tongue in cheek but also from those who don’t know how to cat.

[–] FreddyNO@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

As others have said it really depends on the cat. My two let us do all, the belly as long as it's very gently

[–] Fiivemacs 1 points 2 years ago

My cat demands it my meowing super loud and annoyingly while rolling on her back. Every animal is different, regardless of what people say..unless it's a health thing that is

[–] chris2112@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

It entirely depends on the cat, and generally speaking, the earlier you teach a kitten that human contact is a good thing the more likely they will be receptive of it. Cats are most impressionable the first 10-12 weeks of their life, after that its really hard to convince them to change. We have two cats that were raised in a great foster home that we adopted at around 12 weeks and they will literally let you do anything; I think its like 50% genes and 50% how they were raised

[–] Sami@lemmy.zip 1 points 2 years ago

My cat is the same but also in short bursts. I feel like carrying a cat is generally fine if they trust you and you do it in a way that isn't uncomfortable for them.

[–] MiddleWeigh@lemmy.world 1 points 2 years ago

Depends largely on both of our moods. Usually yes, any type of snug.

Only if I pour myself into him fully though.

He's very spoiled.

[–] erre@feddit.win 1 points 2 years ago

None of my cats mind anymore. They used to get a bit nippy when they were kittens but now they trust me or something 🤷‍♂️