OrderedChaos

I think linguists worldwide should come up with a new one that makes more sense logically and is easier to adopt.

It doesn't mean For Real? Jk

Eye roll. Just shut it down will you? Why even bother posting if you're not being constructive? Discussion expands the mind.

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Like a table saw sled?

I have had a mixed set of results. Sometimes I have to take something that chemically affects my mental health until I figure out what is happening and then I manage it on my own. I always make sure the medication only takes the edge off so that my body will keep repeating the anxiety process. This is so that I can find the pattern for what is causing my anxiety and then work through it. Anxiety is not a bad thing. It is there to teach us more about ourselves. So in effect this is a meditation on why. Meditation is great but it is also very very hard and painful. Modern studies on meditation and meditation groups used to focus too much on how wonderful meditation is but never actually said clearly why it was effective. It forces you to address yourself. All of the scary bits.

First off it helps to realize that anxiety will not kill us. I discovered that when I would feel it kicking in I would stop whatever I was doing and repeat that I was okay, that I was loved, and that I was thankful for the anxiety. Really do your best to be grateful for it. Then tell it that you hear it and you love it. Really embrace it. I did this for about a month before I whittled down 40 minutes of heart breaking panic and blacking out to where I could get it to fade within seconds. The key here is to stop whatever you're doing and face it. Step aside and acknowledge it. DO NOT treat it as if it doesn't matter and is an inconvenience. You're telling yourself that "I don't matter" and IT WILL make the cycle worse.

You may need to let some people know what you're doing if your life is the kind that makes anxiety super inconvenient to address. Also believe it or not but just going outside and hugging a tree helped me so so much. It sounds stupid but visualize breathing deep into the earth through the tree roots.

The box breathing in the other post works wonders too but it wasn't enough for me. Stretching out the breathing so that it is deeper and slower is key to maximizing it. Don't get locked into the counting too much. Your breath can and will last longer and longer and counting can get in the way. Pay close attention. At first you will feel like you can't match the counting because you're out of breath and then it'll feel like you're squeezing your breath into the box and it is at that point you want to drop the counting and just be the breath.

Edit: You've got this!

Agreed. Hearing seems fine but what people say gets drowned out.

People can be kinky behind closed doors.

They probably already have something better than this otherwise it would have been relaxed publicly.

I'm dense. Sorry you are dealing with that. Thankfully we don't have to stay with our parents forever. You've got this.

Ah. Thanks.