loopy

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[–] [email protected] 101 points 2 years ago (21 children)

Such a valid point; success should not be measured only in dollars. I began explaining the basics of the Fediverse with some of my friends and the first question they asked was, “How do people even make money on there then?” It’s a bit disheartening to see how money-driven things are for some people.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

It’s strange, I downloaded a gif to my photo and selected it as an image for a Memmy post. The post worked and was upvoted so others must see it. But the actual gif is not visible on Memmy. The gif does play on a mobile browser though.

I want to try posting a direct link to a gif and see what it looks like. Can you see the gif below?

Nope

It looks like you need to use the format:

![label](directlink.gif) such as: ![Nope](https://i.imgur.com/lov37J1.gif)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

So far it seems that the admins will make posts when they’re considering new ones. I think the need for committed moderators may be the challenge for adding new ones. You could always find a community on a different Lemmy instance or create a community on an instance that has that enabled.

 

doctors say it’s terminal

 

(a mushroom!)

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I agree, I would rather see the community on the left with the instance in smaller/non-bold text below it, and user to the right without the instance of the user until you click the post.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I had an ex-gf that would sit down for showers when possible, and sometimes fall asleep lol

 

The social benefits are great and I heard the flag is a big plus

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

My wife says I’m cheap, but idk. I’m not buying it

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Thank you. It’s not a common acronym; I just didn’t see a way I wanted to shorten it haha.

Outside of this post with the link, people that search “addiction” would probably see the community. I posted essentially this same post in other instances’ chat communities, and made sure this new community was discoverable by lemmy.world, beehaw.org, vlemmy.net, lemmy.one, and kbin.social. I also asked that the mental health community lists this as a “related community.”

 

An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction.

[email protected]

 

An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction.

[email protected]

Just thought I’d share an avenue for Beehaw members that may be interested. Please direct me to a different place to post if this would be better suited elsewhere.

 

An online support group for people to share experiences and resources, and give support to one another through the many challenges of having a friend/family member struggling with addiction.

[email protected]

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I have been trying to upload a banner image and receiving the same JSON syntax error message. I tried on mobile and desktop browsers without success.

edit: alright so uploading an image from the Photos app works, just not from Files

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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
 

Hi everyone, my name is loopy and I created this lemmy community to make a space for people to share and support each other through the challenges of having a friend or family member struggling with addiction. As the sidebar says, this is not to replace therapy; think of it like an online support group.

I’ll get the ball rolling a little bit by sharing that my BIL has been struggling with addiction. First to opioids, then to his Adderall prescription. The mood swings are an understatement. I get glimpses of sobriety but then the cycles continue. It honestly gets pretty exhausting to keep trying to have empathy only to be let down again.

My wife and my focus lately has been setting boundaries. He knows how to manipulate my wife, so I said that we all need to be present when deciding something (eg if he is staying at our house for the weekend). It feels uncomfortable for her, but it has been minimizing the stress. I have learned the valuable lesson of keeping yourself safe and well first. This is basically not possible for my wife to set this boundary with him, so my role has been a lot of reassurance and being consistent.

Another essential lesson we have discovered is to distinctly define roles. We are not therapists and cannot be a detox center. We have literally tried because he talked us into it.

The last recent thing we concluded is that the whole process has to be their decision. No matter how badly we want for him to succeed and how many ways we facilitate that success, if he doesn’t want to do it, he will find any excuse not to follow through. Actions are the only way to measure progress (words and promises aren’t worth much), and he must follow through first.

We love him and truly wish for him to thrive in life. It is heartbreaking to see the lows, but as long as we don’t compromise on our own well-being, we will continue supporting him on his journey to recovery.

How have you all managed? How has addiction affected your life? Personally, I would love nothing more than to see some success stories to encourage others, but I know those are sometimes rare.

 

created with MidJourney by VorgBardo

 

created with MidJourney by VorgBardo

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago

I think you’d have more responses if you posted to [email protected]

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 years ago

I found beehaw first, so I started there but then discovered that the admins manage the community creation there. So I made a new account on lemmy.world to mod that, and most browsed with my beehaw account. But then beehaw needed to de-federate from lemmy.world, so I made a vLemmy and lemmy.one accounts so I could interact with both beehaw and lemmy.world.

tl;dr As someone else mentioned, finding a smaller, low-profile instance to have your home account but interacting with other instances seems to be the best approach

 

Concept art from the live-action Avatar: The Last Airbender movie

 

Artist unknown. From Dreamer on Tumblr

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago

I always love having more icon options. If I’m being honest, I think the placement of the ears should move so that it looks less like a ram. But I do like that it’s a different angle than all of the the straight-on icons.

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