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[–] [email protected] 57 points 20 hours ago (8 children)

find an activity that you legitimately enjoy. that's it

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago

still trying to get laid daily as a form of exercise..

[–] [email protected] 33 points 20 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 20 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

wasn't trying to be flippant or trivialize this but at the core it's what is needed

I found that trying to distract or occupy my mind while trying to work wasn't enough, for example watching a show or listening to music while using my row erg as a primary workout. Still found myself counting down the time and minutes

I climb shit. In the gym and outside. It feeds my inner child, it's fun, it's exciting, and it involves problem solving so stimulates the mind. Rowing and biking are now secondary exercises or activities to support my climbing fitness and ability. I find doing them with less intensity, less often, and as support (shorter duration) makes it easier for me to digest because I know it will better me for what I truly enjoy. Along the way you just may find yourself growing to accept, like or love something.

Kinda gotta find workable angles that suit your mind and goals. eventually you'll have tricked yourself into becoming a healthy bastard who has some fun along the way

[–] [email protected] 13 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Sorry, I totally wasn't trying to be dismissive either, but I think it came across like that. When depression gets bad it's just hard to find anything enjoyable, and sticking with it anyway is real hard. I'll just have to keep at it until something clicks I guess.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 14 hours ago

The other side of the coin is that it should be something that you do on a regular schedule with other people who you enjoy being around.

Fun and accountability are the keys.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 13 hours ago

well thats not going to happen.

activity causes pain and exhaustion, both things i am very much not fond of.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I hike/walk daily with my dog. ~8km per day, although some days are shorter, some are longer.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 19 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 19 hours ago

No, not last I checked… Why?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

I've never enjoyed anything at all in my life.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

So we need to harness your disdain and hatred and work with that..

what do you hate most?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 17 hours ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 12 hours ago

Perfect, Grok it is

[–] [email protected] 3 points 18 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 8 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

This is what I did. I joined a football league for fatties and it's helping keep me active whilst not being massively outclassed by people younger and/or fitter than me 🤣 there's no pressure to be 'good' at it, as the weightloss aspect of the game is more important.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 15 hours ago

Holy crap, How does one find something like that

[–] [email protected] 8 points 19 hours ago

And ideally also something that doesn't require too much preparation. If it takes a long time to prepare for or get back after you are usually less likely to do it.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 20 hours ago

This is the way.