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I became interested in why foot fetishes occur recently.
Basically, it's the same reason why breasts are considered sexual (they aren't); it's all about novelty. If we lived in a nudist colony, neither feet, nor breasts would be considered sexy.
Feet get covered by shoes, making them more novel.
Tribal cultures dont regarded breasts, or feet, as sexy.
Though it begs the question: if nudity became normalized, then what would be novel?
People would find personalities, voices, power dynamics, and fantasies more or less erotic than they are now (for most people).
Breasts and feet are both sensitive and responsive to touch. If you've ever Netflix-and-Chilled, a foot rub is a classic opening move. Meanwhile, teasing someone's nipple is very normal foreplay.
Breasts are sexual. They're secondary sex characteristics.
...that's not what secondary sex characteristic means. As the article you linked says, that just means physical characteristics unrelated to the reproductive system that differ between the sexes. Some of the other examples given include the Adam's apple in men and longer arms relative to height in women. While some of these things can be sexually attractive or related to sexual attractiveness in some way, certainly we don't societally put them in the same sexual category as women's breasts.
Breasts are larger than they need to be, and they're that size all the time. One hypothesis is that they're used to signal sexual maturity and attract mates.
But aside from that, breasts and nipples are definitely a bigger erogenous zone than most parts of the body, probably second only to genitals. And they're directly involved in reproduction as you need them to feed babies.
And most importantly, most societies view them as sexual even if some don't. So what makes something sexual anyway? That's a subjective thing, it works by consensus.
Right. Breasts serve a function related to reproduction - feeding children. But breast size is largely decoupled from a given breast's ability to feed children. So why do some women have needlessly big breasts? Because breasts are an example of human sexual dimorphism, and so emphasizing them increases sexual fitness since potential mates' brains will think "boobs = female = horny. More boobs = more female = more horny."
For me, more boobs = udders = cow ≠ sexy
I'm more of a B - C type of guy.
Ooo baby look at that apple BOB--yeah drain that cup, waterboy
Yes, but I'm talking about arousal. The distinction between the adjective and verb of 'sex' is important lol.
So is thick back hair
Hey, some people love body hair, so you're not disproving much.
That's interesting
This doesn't work.
If it were only about novelty, then why aren't there more bellybutton fetishes?
Being a fetish-having person, I can tell you there there is more than just an attraction to the object of your desire. It is a primal, deep, uncontrollable NEED to see or touch the object.
I am not a foot fetishist, so I do not presume to know the intimate details of what they like, but I can promise you, it has nothing to do with novelty. Fetishes have so many variants also; there are foot fetishes, sock fetishes, feet squishing stuff, toenail paint things, some want a footjob, some want to lick them or suck on toes, some people like big feet, small feet, the list goes on and on.
Maybe read just a tiny bit? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_fetishism#Cause
Welll for one, giving your partner a foot massage usually ends up in them feeling better. Nobody does that with belly buttons.
You're conflating intensity with origin. Sure, the fetish feels like a deep, primal need now; but that doesn’t mean it started that way. Addiction feels like a need, too, but no one thinks the first cigarette was “primal.”
Novelty doesn’t mean “casual curiosity.” It refers to the way our brains fixate on patterns of scarcity, secrecy, or taboo. Especially during formative sexual experiences. Feet are usually hidden and rarely touched; in most cultures, they’re also considered dirty or improper to eroticize. That makes them novel stimuli, and novelty is rocket fuel for sexual imprinting.
The reason there aren’t more bellybutton fetishes? Simple: they’re not as hidden or taboo. You’ll see a bellybutton in every second Instagram post, and no one’s getting banned for it. Feet? Covered, ignored, often stigmatized, and that makes them psychologically ripe for fetishization.
Also, you mention the diversity of foot-related fetishes like it disproves the point, but it confirms it. The foot becomes a canvas for a range of niche fixations, because it’s already been elevated to erotic status by the novelty of its cultural invisibility. From there, everything else: socks, polish, squishing and domination branches off.
TL;DR: Just because your fetish feels deep doesn’t mean it wasn’t shaped by shallow cultural patterns. Read a bit deeper.
https://www.psypost.org/new-research-challenges-idea-that-female-breasts-are-sexualized-due-to-modesty-norms/
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When I fuck people their feet are in my face. I always thought what I was looking at was sexy when fucking, but I agree. Forbidden fruit and all that.
Not an sexologist or even a sexy anthropologist, but my intuition is that aesthetic attraction would always be a factor (since it doesn't rely on sexual attraction), and that acting in a sexually provocative would be the way to provoke the horny gaze.
It might be nice to have less sexualization of people just be virtue of their existing in a sexualized body. That's the dream, anyway.
I would phrase that near-last sentiment, "...in a sexy body." instead. No one should be oggled simply for being sexy, but if they are sexualizing themselves, (like dressing up for a night club) I'd argue that can indicate a desire to be oggled. They still should not be objectified, but when someone is trying to look sexy, I bet most people would be disappointed to get zero glances.
What do tribal cultures regard as sexy?
In many tribal societies, the erotic focus isn’t on specific body parts like breasts or feet; it's on signs of fertility, health, and social status. things like wide hips, smooth skin, body paint, scarification, or even dance.
It raises or prompts that question.
I beg your pardon?
Dressed people ofc!