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Mutual aid spam is becoming a problem on the Fediverse.

And to be sure, I'm not against mutual aid. What I am against is spam.

This person has not verified who she is -- or even if the profile picture is hers. Additional research on her name states she is a scammer with a record of grifting. I am therefore skeptical that any donations will help anyone in need.

Folks, please be cautious with mutual aid requests. Yes, people sometimes need help. But people also lie.

@[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 day ago

Lol, comments in this thread forgot the 'mutual' part of 'mutual aid' and miss the point of this post (scams in mutual aid groups)

If you think mutual aid is a one-way street (/ don't benefit from it), is not for you, block and move on

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Its tough cause we want to help people in need but also dont want to be scammed. Theres gotta be a better way to do this!

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 day ago

Seems like a great way to poison the concept of "mutual aid" before most people (such as OP) have even heard of it.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I see a lot of people asking for mutual aid, and it's often "I've had a hard day and just want some McDonalds, please help"

OK, that's not mutual aid, and you shouldn't be asking for that under that hashtag. if you need help paying your rent, or with gas money so you don't lose your job, that's something that appropriate for mutual aid. asking for money for vices should be something you do off the hashtag, or on your OF or something. mutual aid is for people helping where they can, when they can, for problems that are serious and life-altering. and nothing else.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Mutual Aid is not charity. Mutual aid is beneficial for both parties.

Mutual aid for rent would be to join a tenants union so that people can get organized and perform a rent strike.

https://www.dissentmagazine.org/online_articles/tenant-unions-for-the-future/

Mutual Aid for food would be something like Food Not Bombs. (It's an http site so only sign up if you're comfortable with that.)

http://foodnotbombs.net/new_site/

Charity is not mutual aid.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 day ago

"Mutual aid"? Is that what scammers are calling it now? What exactly is "mutual" about this interaction?

I don't think there's anything wrong with creating a community where people who are struggling financially can ask for help or plug their GoFundMe or whatever, but allowing these guys to essentially cold call individuals with DMs/Mentions is unacceptable.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Is it weird that I've never heard this term "mutual aid" before this thread but apparently everyone here knows all about it?

Anyway. There's just no way I'd give real money to someone asking for it like this because for every real person there must be a dozen scammers at least. It honestly seems crazy to me that this could work and people could send money.

If people are giving money away like this then they're part of the problem IMO. You're encouraging scammers, and perpetuating the practice, diverting money away from the people who actually need it.

[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Mutual aid is not giving random internet assholes money because they begged for it. I'm not saying they should be banned from doing so, but calling it mutual aid is 100% a scam. Mutual aid is given freely, within a pre-established network.

Hosting a friend on your couch for a week cause they're in between apartments is mutual aid. Feeding your friends without expecting anything in return is mutual aid. Enabling e-begging is not mutual aid.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I guess in this case it's OP that labeled it as mutual aid rather than the requester.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (5 children)

It isn't really that odd, considering you've only been here a couple of weeks. Mutual Aid is a foundational idea in most if not all anarchist projects and theory.

There may be many scammers, yes, but the goal remains the same - get help to those who need it from those in a position to give it.

As for being part of the problem, I must disagree. Scammers aren't leeching just this, they'd be present in any system purporting to help others (in gov't systems this is called fraud), the goal of these grassroots aid projects is to help those who fall through the cracks of more formalized systems and decentralize some aid in case the church/NGO/gov't can't or won't help (see the Hurricane Helene/Katrina responses when FEMA is overwhelmed).

Means-testing recipients is kinda a dick move anyway: those who have demonstrable need will have a harder time getting aid and time/money that should be spent helping are now spent with verification.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Is it weird that I've never heard this term "mutual aid" before this thread but apparently everyone here knows all about it?

May be an American thing? I don't know have never heard of it or encountered it.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's a very terminally online leftist thing. You would see it in communist/anarchist leftist spaces, people retweeting posts of disabled/neurodivergent people asking for help with rent.

I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with it, and kudos to those who donate. But it quickly turns into a popularity/disability contest of who can fit the most disability categories in a GoFundMe.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Americans have had to invent novel terms to avoid using the 's' or 'c' word with politics. 'Mutual aid' is a term usually used to refer tk grassroots organizing of communities to cover basic needs like food and medicine.

Referring to a common internet scam as 'mutual aid' is doing more work to smear the term than anything.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

There are needs and needs, I refuse to help a money begger unless is a close friend which I can control how is the best I can do for him, money being the last resource. Instead I always demand for social programs and services sustained by taxes to support those in real need (survival needs) unconditionally.

I would sleep much better if part of my tax contribution (together that of anybody in function of their resources) goes to grant the minimum for a "dignity survival" to any human being regardless of their returned contribution, with programs for reinsertion and mental support so they have the best chances to reach eventually a "dignity life".

And, if still they cannot but just "survive" for the rest of their lives, I still want to fund it and give them the security to do it with dignity until the very end.

[–] [email protected] 182 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yep.

I feel the fediverse should lean towards “overly aggressive” when combatting spam, before it takes root, even with all the negatives that brings.

[–] [email protected] 97 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (4 children)

I agree. E-mail is the original federated service. And 50 years later e-mail spam remains a big problem. I hope Fedi projects can get spam mitigations on-par with email before spammers start getting serious about this place.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I'd argue that telephones are the original federated service. There were fits and starts to getting the proprietary Bell/AT&T network to play nice with devices or lines not operated by them, but the initial system for long distance calling over the North American Numbering Plan made it possible for an AT&T customer to dial non-AT&T customers by the early 1950's, and set the groundwork for the technical feasibility of the breakup of the AT&T/Bell monopoly.

We didn't call it spam then, but unsolicited phone calls have always been a problem.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah, the other day I saw a lot of posts like "I am from palestine, my home is destroyed please donate to help"... Spam is probably the significant problem on fedi

[–] [email protected] 2 points 16 hours ago

Funnily enough, I haven't seen many instances delicated to just spam, like there was conerns about. Its mostly from .world or mastodon.social

[–] [email protected] 59 points 2 days ago

@atomicpoet @fediverse I'm glad someone brought this up. I basically assume all mutual aid posts are fraudulent unless strictly verifiable.

[–] [email protected] 74 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Yeah, mutual aid works on the local level or in insular communities like long-term discord groups with a tight group of regular members. With community mutual aid, I'm generally in favor of just taking people at their word. If they say they need help, give them help. No need to interrogate them like the food stamp office will. You prevent people from abusing the system by simply not granting endless requests from the same person. Or if someone needs severe aid, at that point you can start actually verifying their story, helping them access government benefits, helping them find employment, etc.

But that kind of open approach works for in-person aid. It doesn't work for anonymous online aid, where someone can use bots to spin up hundreds of convincing profiles each begging for money.

I just don't think mutual aid works well in an online context. The only online context it works in is among communities like small discord groups where people know each other for years. But on a lemmy or mastadon-type service? Mutual aid is impractical. Any people asking for aid should be directed to local groups that can help them in person.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 day ago

I see a lot of teenagers falling for the “I’m a Gazan and need help getting out.” accounts too.

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[–] [email protected] 126 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I don't think mutual aid can work well like that on the internet. Works great in person, works OK for GoFundMe-type stuff like "I had something happen to me that will take a lot of money to fix". Too easy to scam and grift for small stuff like this though, where for all you know they're just a very clever dog on the internet.

[–] [email protected] 74 points 2 days ago (9 children)

Charity is not the same as mutual aid anyways, even though I have also seen "mutual aid" requests on the Fediverse that were clearly asking for charity.

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[–] [email protected] 96 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That's not mutual aid, that's scam spam. Report it.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago (2 children)

One problem with reporting private messages on Lermy is, as an admin i don't see who sent the message. I only see who reported it. And i don't have any actlon available, other than marking the report as handled.

with reported posts, i can ban the poster. With reported messages i'd have to ask the reporter who it was, trust their answer, search for the account manually and then i could ban. Not really efficient or fast if there ever was a spam wave.

of course sparmers could then just register a new account on a open instance and i might need to defederates which would lead to a fractured landscape of spammy open instances and likely inactive private instances.

there's also not even rudimantary spam filtering in lemmy.

The main saving grace is that Lemmy is too small to attract a ton of spam yet.

maybe some of the above is just due my pick of clients (jerboa and the web interface), and there's better tools? If so, i'd love to hear. But as things stand right now, there's a lot to be desired

[–] [email protected] 1 points 16 hours ago

What in the honest fsck was the reasoning behind that?

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[–] [email protected] 43 points 2 days ago (5 children)

How is this mutual aid spam? This is by definition not mutual. It's begging.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Personally only seen one asking for help and it was just a fella in my instance (super small) saying hey if u live in ___ my friend needs a place to crash at, retoot if possible (sounds super legit)

[–] [email protected] 33 points 2 days ago

There is an entire sub on here somewhere that is only for mutual aid. The sob stories in there are batshit crazy.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 2 days ago

That's not mutual aid that's charity. Mutual aid is mutually beneficial to both parties.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 2 days ago (1 children)

@fediverse @atomicpoet Yep! Majority of them are questionable, even those who claim they were "manually" verified by some supposedly "well-known" person. Even in the ATmosphere network, it's the same.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 16 hours ago

Like tumblr, "you don't understand! 90-ghost says i'm real!!"

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