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Mutual aid spam is becoming a problem on the Fediverse.

And to be sure, I'm not against mutual aid. What I am against is spam.

This person has not verified who she is -- or even if the profile picture is hers. Additional research on her name states she is a scammer with a record of grifting. I am therefore skeptical that any donations will help anyone in need.

Folks, please be cautious with mutual aid requests. Yes, people sometimes need help. But people also lie.

@[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

At the beginning of the pan, someone was selling nudes to cover expenses. I think I sent twenty bucks because I could and she was cute and whatever. But then the person started messaging me about trying to get more money (for her and her sister) and it just felt like a scam and I became very cynical about it.

Btw, I slept funny last night and I have a neck cramp. Please send money. /s

[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 days ago (2 children)

This is nothing, on hexbear there's a person pretending to be like half a dozen different Palestinians with different fraudulent GoFundMe. They cook up a new persona like every other week using pictures they scrape from the media and then run it through an AI filter.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

Same on Bluesky. And they are everywhere. Couple of years ago some accounts did this multiple times on Imgur. Even today occasionally some pop up again, but now the users are quick to call them out…with the admins doing jack shit. Which is classic for that site.

When coming across a sob story my knee jerk reaction is “bullshit”. If you want to give money to charity, do so through a reputable organisation. And don’t trust any rando on the internet.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (8 children)

I just mute all of them.

It may be my "3rd world syndrome" but to me, someone with internet access and a social media account who post regularly, is not in poverty. More likely a spambot.

My local beggar, in contrast, is a sincere person who tells me that he just want some cheap boxed wine or something to smoke. Refuses food or any kind of help. Cash only.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Yep I've already gotten a couple messages like this with an image of a random lady attached:

Hi, I’m Nicole! I’m a proud Polish girl from Toronto (29 y/o)

I’m currently taking the pre-health sciences program at George Brown College hoping to get into the medical field someday!

You can add me on Friendica: [REDACTED]

and join my discord here: [REDACTED]

[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Hi, I'm ~~Nicole~~ wizardbeard! I'm a ~~proud~~ aromatic ~~Polish~~ Abyssal ~~girl~~ tube sock with googly eyes from ~~Toronto~~ the space between your walls (~~29 y/o~~ 50 ft)

I’m currently taking the ~~pre-health sciences program at George Brown College~~ socks from your dryer hoping to ~~get into the medical field~~ find a broodmother for the spawn that will form the ranks of my holy army someday!

You can't add me on Friendica. It's far too late for that. Far far too late for anyone to do anything to stop this.

Your socks may be returned to you but they may never be the same.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I only ever got one. I feel so rejected!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

I got one about an hour after I made my Mastodon account. found me pretty fucking fast.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

i had helped 2 people through Mastodon who seemed to genuinely need it on Mastodon a few months ago. I think it is nice to know that I can help people who need and they might help in my time of need.It is functional.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

@atomicpoet @fediverse THX for putting this clearly on the table, I had this scepticism for some time already ...

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

@regineheidorn @fediverse Yeah, people I know boosted her messages—which implies they may have given her money. The thing is, that grifter’s success is going to attract other grifters if this problem isn’t addressed.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 days ago (5 children)

I was just offered 500$ to be someone's friend. Of course, I refused - my friendship is worth much more than that!

But it's... concerning that we've got this sudden spike in spam.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Tell them I'll do it for $495

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

I’ll be their mate if they pay me £400.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

@atomicpoet @fediverse

Thankfully that would almost certainly be a scam in my country and many others.

I am an asthmatic. Well controlled by a thrice daily cocktail of medicines. All free at the point of need. Paid for by our taxes.

The true scandal is the countries that make this plea possible.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Donate those that provide something meaningful.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

@[email protected] No, this account is specifically from Akkoma. I have also submitted posts from my Pixelfed account.

I can submit a post to Lemmy by mentioning the community handle in my post. Such is the magic of the Fediverse.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I can submit a post to Lemmy by mentioning the community handle in my post

That's why I thought you came from Mastodon; they have the same feature.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

@Feathercrown Actually, you can do that with any Fediverse service, not just Mastodon.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago
[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

People do solicit donations, as on just about every public forum. I really wouldn't call it a problem on lemmy at this point, but a rule against it except in communities where it's encouraged wouldn't be a terrible idea. Somebody who is interested in doing it could start a Please Help community specifically for these requests, requiring some form of verification. Seems like running it could turn into a lot of work tho.

[–] Punchshark 10 points 2 days ago (10 children)

Who is seriously stupid enough to fall for this?

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

I blocked MutualAid-related tags months ago because there is only so much begging and sob stories that a person can take.

I feel sorry for people who have problems and situations so desperate that they feel the best way to fix them is asking random people on the internet for money, but I just don't know if I can trust them and I absolutely know I can't help everyone.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Don't boost it. If it violates your instance's rules (e.g. it's a scam), report it. Unfollow people that boost it. Mute/block the poster or their content.

I don't mind seeing it, and I don't think it is a problem (yet).

Agree that caution is warranted for any request of funds, whatever the requestor wants to call it.

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