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What are your recent fears and how have you overcome them? (lazysoci.al)

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I'm scared for the LGBT community. I'm horribly upset for trans people as they're being attacked from all angles. I'm scared for me, because a lot of the arguments people are using about trans used to be used against LGB. They're coming for us next.

It also effects women's rights. A lot of anti trans people IME are misogynistic too... it's ludicrous to suggest men spewing bile about trans people in women's bathrooms care about women. They don't.

The way I'm dealing with it is by volunteering in my local LGBT group, and educating myself on LGBT DA so I can help my LGBT clients. I also started this group so at least women have a nice women's space to hang out in on lemmy.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Same (im trans) :c

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I don't know how you're managing to sleep atm, it's just awful. WomensStuff totally have your back

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

Now I only sleep so I dont have to deal with this sad cruel world :c

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

A lot of anti trans people IME are misogynistic too...

Yep, the same people attacking trans rights are attacking women's rights. Personally I don't think it's a coincidence that the rise of bigotry happened at exactly the same time as the rise of the manosphere. It's the patriarchy and 'masculinity' driving this, plain and simple. I don't like stereotypes but the biggest and most unashamed bigots I've met in my life have all been men. ESPECIALLY the kind of men that are constantly worried and insecure about being 'manly'.

Not saying that women like J.K. Rowling don't exist but I don't think the score is even close to a draw.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

Mate you make some absolutely excellent points. Thinking about it, the rise of bigotry happened at the same time as the rise of the manosphere. I've read a ton of articles on incels and lone actor grievance fuelled violence, and they're bigoted about loads. They have special slurs for non white, disabled, lgbt etc... they hate so much they've got their own language. The research really does back up what you're saying and frighteningly, it says how much it's linked to truly horrible crimes

I agree, the JKs do exist but from where I'm sat, it's heavily male dominated.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago

Being sent to a camp for having Autism (not the fun kind), getting assaulted for being trans (I nearly avoided being assaulted), and having a man "correct" my Asexuality (by correct I also mean assault)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I found out about anxious preoccupied attachment and how it fits into some really upsetting, toxic behaviours I was catching myself in and which were upsetting me a lot, because I couldn’t understand what was happening. I’m now reading about it and its link to past trauma.

Understanding how it presents itself and why is my first step to overcome this!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 days ago

You've done really well identifying that wildflower, and you're right, that's the first step to changing it. You've put some research into it and you can sort it from there.