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[–] [email protected] 28 points 6 days ago (4 children)

Except that by misgendering her you're causing harm to the trans community as a whole. We don't misgender cisgender people when they are bad people. Misgendering transgender people who do bad things only shows that respecting transgender identity is conditional and can be revoked by other people. It's not. It's who we are. Even if someone is a trash fire human being they still should be gendered correctly.

Transphobes will read comments misgendering or deadnaming Caitlyn and cheer along. There are far, far better ways to vocalize disapproval of her. Ways that don't hurt other trans people.

[–] [email protected] 25 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

We don’t misgender cisgender people when they are bad people.

We don't? I could have sworn cisgender people do that to insult each other all the time. It's like a classic insult.

Discussing acceptable insults, while technically possible, seems somewhat irrational. The concept of an ethical insult doesn't make total sense.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 days ago

It all boils down to the very common phenomenon of thinking certain people, "bad people," are worthy of any form of attack available.

[–] m0darn 11 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I appreciate your point. A few months ago I was in a discussion with someone on Lemmy about the strategy of maliciously complying with someone that has insincerely stated a preference for neo-pronouns. The example in the discussion was Elon Musk claiming "prosecute/Fauci" as pronouns, but insincere pronouns aren't necessarily so easily spotted. (My position was and is that it's okay to maliciously comply with someone's professed pronouns to demonstrate that person's insincerity)

If you're not tired of tutoring ignorant allies I'd really appreciate your opinion on that dilemma.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

The concept is that normalizing dead naming as an insult will result in a cascading effect that harms trans people across the board, right? I'm not trans, but it should be pretty obvious - dead naming is dead naming even if you're a piece of shit liar.

Rights for one are rights for all. Even elmo

[–] [email protected] 0 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I'm not disagreeing on morality of misgendering. I'm disagreeing that the misgendering is conditional on agreement.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 days ago (2 children)

I don't want to sound mean with this I'm sure you mean the best but this isn't a debate

Deadnaming and/or misgendering someone purposefully is transphobia and doing it because they're a bad person is still transphobia

As a trans person I'm saying that if you are transphobic to someone even if they're bad is conditional acceptance whether you mean it that way or not

People were deadnaming her in the comments, that's transphobia not an opinion

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Deadnaming and/or misgendering someone purposefully is transphobia

This is not what I am disagreeing with you on. I am in full agreement here.

and doing it because they’re a bad person is still transphobia

Im disagreeing on this point. It isn't simply because they're a bad person.

People were deadnaming her in the comments, that’s transphobia not an opinion

Agreed

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

What's the difference between transphobia and bigotry?

I think you might mean bigotry, albeit a very specific kind.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I think you might mean bigotry, albeit a very specific kind.

Yes, and that very specific kind of bigotry is called transphobia...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

I thought the "phobia" part was relevant but in looking up definitions of transphobia and homophobia I see that, etymologically, the phobia part seems to be irrelevant. TIL!