This is a community in the spirit of "Am I The Asshole" where people can post their own bans from lemmy or reddit or whatever and get some feedback from others whether the ban was justified or not.
Sometimes one just wants to be able to challenge the arguments some mod made and this could be the place for that.
All posts should follow this basic structure:
Expect to receive feedback about your posts, they might even be negative.
Make sure you follow this instance's code of conduct. In other words we won't allow bellyaching about being sanctioned for hate speech or bigotry.
YTPB matrix channel: For real-time discussions about bastards or to appeal mod actions in YPTB itself.
Some acronyms you might see.
Relevant comms
Apparently I don't have the mods account it's just verified on the app. Seems like mods on certain comms just make up whatever placeholder reasoning when you don't break the rules. I thought you had to blame the victim to victim blame and my post didn't blame anyone for anything.
Apparently I don't have the mods account it's just verified on the app
I'm the mod. If you want to see which mods do what, https://phtn.app/ shows it all iirc.
This was the context you left out: https://lemmy.dbzer0.com/post/38049576
A post on [email protected] of you telling someone they should accept their abusive parents. Seriously? And you think comparing yourself to their father is a good thing?
Seems like mods on certain comms just make up whatever placeholder reasoning when you don't break the rules. I thought you had to blame the victim to victim blame and my post didn't blame anyone for anything.
Really? You think you can go to a mental health community and tell victims to just accept their abusers? Read the room, man. I just inherited the community, too, so i'm not done actually revamping the rules.
I, and anybody else who had abusive parents would look at this and flat out say YDI.
Pardon my French, but what I'm getting from your message is that you enjoy being an asshole (put out negative energy).
If so, don't you find it "interesting" when someone else (the mod in question) "puts out" negative energy towards you? That might be interesting for the mod as well.
Every day is a gift right? Well, accepting the mod's action will help you out. You "have to accept" that.
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Pardon my French
Putain de bordel de merde ça me casse les couilles, we are not that vulgar.
Ah, the language of love! Magnifique!
Looking at your responses in the most favorable way you are using the word accept in a different way than what people typically mean when they say "accept your family". Comment should still be removed, though.
YDI, telling someone to accept their abusive parents on a mental health community absolutely is victim blaming. Seriously, they probably should've banned you for that one it's just extremely shitty and unhelpful, possibly even dangerous.
Yeah I'd say you're just being an inconsiderate asshole here. Then again, I have this feeling you get that a lot and you've just accepted yourself as who you are.
Reading the context provided in the other comments, I'm gonna have to go with YDI here as well.
ydi
Gotta go with YDI here. This was posted in a mental health community which has this rule:
All posts and comments must be helpful and supportive. Do not put vulnerable people at risk.
OP was venting about their abusive parents and the mental health problems they struggle with because of that abuse. You were not helping OP. OP's story resonated with me and I absolutely would not want to read your comment if I were them, I would be pretty offended by it.
YDI, y i k e s
I disagree with your comment but don't think such comments should be deleted by mods unless it's specifically posted in a positivity-focused community. If users have a different opinion they can downvote the comment or put their arguments in a separate comment below.
This was the context: https://lemmings.world/comment/13713743
unless it's specifically posted in a positivity-focused community
Mental health discussion doesn't have to be all positive, but telling someone they should accept abusers is completely wrong.