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[–] [email protected] 154 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

"Top surgery makes you a top" is an amazing take.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 14 hours ago (3 children)

What if I want to do bottom surgery but am already a bottom? What happens now?

[–] [email protected] 39 points 14 hours ago

You obviously become a power bottom

[–] [email protected] 22 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Integer overflow, turns you into max value top.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Isn't it an integer underflow?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago

Dammit, I knew I was missing something

[–] [email protected] 6 points 14 hours ago

Lets you bottom twice simultaneously

[–] [email protected] 93 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Normally, tone is hard to convey through text, but that "Honey No" is doing just splendid.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I really can't think of a single context outside of speaking to your significant other or spouse where "Honey" isn't slimy or laden with judgement/pity.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 14 hours ago

Talking to a cat.

[–] [email protected] 63 points 17 hours ago (2 children)

After top surgery you can spin, like forever!

[–] [email protected] 25 points 16 hours ago (2 children)
[–] saigot 11 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

The director confirmed that Elliot Page does fall over at the end!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 14 hours ago

This is so fucking funny omg

[–] [email protected] 2 points 14 hours ago

This made me actually rofl

[–] [email protected] 5 points 13 hours ago

I am in Spain without the A.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 12 hours ago

If you get both top and bottom surgeries, you wraparound to the other end of the spectrum like Pac-Man and you're just cisgender again.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

How did you manage to find an actual person to talk to on grindr? It's all bots, ads and crypto scams for me.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I'm a trans woman, but I went on grindr to search for femboys one time since there aren't really any on lesbian apps and I got so many unsolicited dick pics + one gaping bussy pic that I just left and never came back. And I was only on there for like 5 minutes. I don't know if those dick pics were from bots or not but I've stopped using dating apps cause it seems every single one gets me either a bunch of bots or a bunch of dick pics.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Grindr is one big flesh market, honestly. It's a 10/90 gamble, 90% dick pics and 10% the occassional deep .... discussions.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago

Deep discussions on grindr reminds me of this:

[–] [email protected] 10 points 13 hours ago

It's also a great way to gain access to buildings. I know someone who uses it to get into high rise apartments with his buddies. Set the proximity search thingamajig to a few hundred feet, and you'll only match with others in that building you're outside of. He gets a lay, his buddies make their way to the top, and he joins them later.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 17 hours ago

And that's how I met your father