drbollocks

we are poly, kinda. the agreement is that we have to know the person and/or know about them before we can date them or it’s considered cheating.

for example, she has a gf. i know of the gf: i know she has one and i’ve talked to her before, so this is alright. she has spoken to my ex a little when i dated him (before i figured out i wasn’t into guys) and knows he dated me.

i have, she says she’s sorry but then continues

she hardly ever talks to me anymore. usually she’s too busy to hang out with me, doesn’t invite me to play with her, and doesn’t seem interested when i wanna play a game or “forgets”. thank you so much, though 🫂

i try to be interested in her hobbies but she doesn’t pick up the conversation or “doesn’t see” my messages, and she doesn’t try to be interested in mine in return, usually I either get a “that’s nice”, she laughs at it, or is like “oh! that’s not…” or even just “… ok”

i should also say lately shes had romantic messages about guys but “can’t tell me” who she’s talking about. at first I thought she was referring to me. flirtatiously I asked, “who are you referring to 🤭” and her response was “i can’t tell you…”

she also seemed rather guilty and avoidant. i also found out she was referring to some guy and talking about how she wanted him to get her pregnant??

tysm 💕 you’re not pushing it, you’re very helpful

probably. i’ve never done this but if i started to mention other girls, that would generally mean i was losing interest.

she’s kind of a “lgbt right winger” last time i heard and her gf somehow has the same interests as her, exact same opinions, plays the same games with her, and doesn’t respond outside the group chat just like her…

i actually did break up with her last year because she thought i didn’t care about her. she then said i broke up with her because i’m a horrible person and said i assaulted her.

then, after a year, she apologized profusely and said she can and has changed.

anyway, i’ve tried starting a convo on the phone and it starts out flirty but then it’s just her talking about her interests and hot guys (which i don’t find interesting as im a lesbian 😅)

no, not really, to be honest.

i dated her bc she paid attention to me and treated me right. we’d talk about our interests, she’d say she liked my interests and that my autistic ramblings are cute

she would sometimes talk abt movies or video games, i’d also take an interest in them.

we would pick out stuff that reminded us of our relationship

she never offers to play video games w me, I’ve tried talking to her abt getting into them and she just doesn’t socialize :(

plus she’s obsessed with guys and has love notes about (male actors or ai men, i would assume) in her notes and when i flirtatiously ask who she’s talking about, she acts guilty and says she can’t tell me ??

she says one of them is her bf and makes sexual comments about him, also says he got her pregnant

idk, she seems to give her other partner attention and plays the games w her. they have the same opinions and interests so even tho my gf said she likes my interests, she never is actually interested in what i like :( only what she does

she questions neurodivergence but not diagnosed

i know bilingual people who DON’T read english