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[–] [email protected] 69 points 1 week ago (7 children)

I wouldnt tell anyone i use Reddit irl let alone Lemmy

[–] [email protected] 47 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I never told anyone I used Reddit, but I've def told many about Lemmy (within my foss propaganda I regularly administer upon the unsuspecting, if need be at the urinals).

(Still won't ever share my username, I don't like people like that)

[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I started using Reddit in 2008 (kill me). One of the of the defining traits of the site at the time was the fact everything was anonymous. It was considered taboo to expose your Reddit persona to your irl circles. Hell, I still don't have an email associated with my Reddit account.

It's been interesting, and a little tragic, to watch that attitude erode over the years and then see Reddit itself encourage the idea of creating a unique identity to cash in.

Lemmy is way more like the original Reddit & I'll actually admit to using Lemmy, even though no one knows wtf I'm on about.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Yeah, was on Reddit almost daily since prob around 2008 too, up till only a bit over two years ago.

The anonymity within one account(name) is great, don't need or want more for interaction online.

It's great for introverted social interaction.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

(Still won’t ever share my username, I don’t like people like that)

someone in IRL asked me my username once, and I thought it was so weird. Of course, I didn't tell them.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

I one tolk them they can find me as the top poster on r/clopclop

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

I only mention Lemmy as a caution, like what to avoid, while I’m mentioning other fediverse social media..

Because I’m a woman and most of the people I know who want social media alternatives are also women, and I’m not subjecting them to this shitshow. I like them too much to bring them here.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I read a similar sentiment yesterday in a thread about apparent misogyny on lemmy. As someone affected, what would you suggest be done to improve the situation?

I must say I have rarely observed the issue myself and if so the offenders generally get down voted to hell and eventually mod deleted. Though I am of course a dude and not frequenting the women centric spaces, so my perception is definitely skewed.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I don’t really think there’s anything that can be done other than policing your own and letting the platform grow.

It’s a whole vibe thing, not just obvious stuff.

For example, whenever there were questions aimed at women (hey ladies, what’s your hair routine? Sort of thing), it’s nothing but a bunch of men spouting off about what their wives or girlfriends do, and maybe a few actual women, but their comments always ended up buried. Nobody actually wants that “the woman in my life does this, I think..” sort of input at all, except other men (which unfortunately is the vast majority of the platform, so those “as a man” comments get heavily upvoted, even when they are obviously full of complete shit). It drowns out the few female voices that actually are around. And if you correct some dude in a post for women voices, about something men typically know nothing about, you’ll get heavily downvoted for it. Not at all welcoming.

I know we have some strong transfem comms, and I’m all for it because all women are women, but the experience of those women is wildly different from cis women, and a lot of the memes and stuff coming from those comms are sort of… cis-excluding and often very off-putting. Which is sort of the only fem representation on here.

It’s just not friendly for women. And so so many things need to change before it really is.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

Thanks for your insights, now that you mention it I have noticed the tendency for husbands of women to chime in instead of the wives themselves quite a bit. I didn't realize it was that ubiquitous.

I will try to make a conscious effort to pay attention to these tendencies you describe, and also thank you for sticking it out 💪

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

It's like people think FOSS means considerate. It means it's the wild west, with a few zealous moderators who care way more about respecting femboys than women.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I've heard people say, "I saw X on Reddit" I don't think it's stigmatized.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago

I just say i saw it online

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Reddit is entirely a "normie" platform now. 6 years ago I was actually made fun of for using it, but now even my grandparents talk about it.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

For a good reason

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[–] JizzmasterD 59 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Bragging about Lemmy is just a vessel for bragging about Linux.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago

I mained Lemmy before I mained Linux.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Bragging about Linux is just a vessel for bragging about your sick gaming PC.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

Bragging about your sick gaming pc is just a vessel for bragging about HRT

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Lemmy is cool, but that kind of behaviour is quite disgusting to be honest.

[–] [email protected] 78 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 53 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 29 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

Call some fiends, there are lots of urinals still free!

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 1 week ago (3 children)

It's 2025. We should be able to piss right next to each other and check each other's cocks out.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] troyunrau 22 points 1 week ago (2 children)

With Lemmy, there could be multiple /c/ock communities -- one per instance haha

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 week ago

I'll check your /c/ock once it's up then

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[–] wise_pancake 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

It’s a great conversation starter

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago

man took this post extremely serious lol

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago

Ikr, he didn't even mention his favorite instance (if his favorite is world, ml, or hexbear I would call him disgusting)

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[–] ininewcrow 26 points 1 week ago

Me in the yellow shirt: ..... (turning towards you suddenly in surprise without thinking) .... LEMMY! ... ME TOO!!!!! ... (as I'm smiling and spraying you with urine)

[–] [email protected] 25 points 1 week ago (2 children)

At least he's not using the same urinal.

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 week ago (1 children)

His urinal is on a different instance.

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[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 week ago (2 children)

More often than not when I mention Lemmy to someone, it's after they've told me about something they saw on reddit and their reply is invariably, "what the fuck is Lemmy?"

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 week ago

"Lemmy is reddit methadone." Is my go-to answer.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 week ago (2 children)

It's rare to see a meme taken with a camera. This one's gotta be a collectors item.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'm going to add this comment to my scrap journal.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Love it. I'm in the history books!

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

Its probably a screenshot taken from an app that adds a fade to black at the top

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's totally not believable.

Blue shirt didn't even mention Arch!

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

This is why I quit competitive urinal Lemmy propoganda, too many sweats

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The paintshop job with the letters is awesome.

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[–] Henry 3 points 1 week ago (3 children)
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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 week ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Why make friends when you can make enemies? - Lemmy

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