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[–] [email protected] 17 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I like cruising. There's nothing like a state highway in the US that's popular enough to be well maintained, but not so popular that it's crowded and in the suburbs. They whisk you past some amazing sights and pieces of Americana that are quickly fading.

As for commuting, anything more than 20 minutes one way is either hell or a trip needing some level of planning between walking to the fridge and sending man to the moon.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 days ago

Was an anxiety trigger. When I removed it from life other areas improved. Understand some do not have the luxury and am appreciative.

Hated it from the very first moment. Tried everything to make it work.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 6 days ago

It sounds backwards, but I like driving because it's a time when I can't scroll or play games. I drive to the next town over (about an hour's drive) 2 or 3 times most weeks. It's a good chance for me to listen to something, or just ponder. I've been listening to the Bible over that drive more often lately.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 6 days ago (4 children)

No.

It's exhausting, and I'm not good at it.

And when I say "I'm not good as it" I don't mean below-average. If anything, I'm an above-average driver, but the average is abysmal and most people on the road should frankly not have licenses.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

I love driving, and I love cars, but I hate public roads and traffic.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 days ago

Like driving goods train or goods truck

[–] Perhapsjustsniffit 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Love it. Ticks all my ADHD boxes. I can drive for days and just be calm.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'm neurodiverse too, do you mind telling me how it ticks your ADHD boxes?

[–] Perhapsjustsniffit 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Lots to pay attention to. If I put on tunes and drive all the anxiety and oddness disappears. There is enough going on to calm my brain. I was a paramedic for years and that driving was even better. A bit reckless, fast, attention seeking and grabbing, attention to detail, patterns, concentration, all the things.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

That's really interesting... for me it works the other way there's too much going on!

I see you were a paramedics would you consider doing an AMA? I bet people would be interested

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago (1 children)

No; I'm a shitty driver and other drivers that are problem drivers combined with my shit driving scare me.

I think I picked it up from my parents (who are both terrible drivers also). I'm sorry everyone! I'm working on it. Really I am!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

It's fine I understand haha. Are you neurodiverse? It can be linked

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

Yeah, I have ADHD. It is both my crime and punishment lol.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

Depends on why I'm driving. A regluar rush-hour commute isn't enjoyable but almost all other driving is. Last year I drove from the UK to San Marino and back - with stops on the way. By the end of the trip I was happy to get home, but I still wanted to do the driving.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 6 days ago

I would love it but people are assholes all the time

[–] Two2Tango 5 points 6 days ago

I love some aspects of driving... I love my car and how nice it looks when it's clean and shiny. I love feeling the acceleration and driving through twisty roads. I love being outside and feeling the sun, while seeing all the varying sights across the city. I love the freedom of going anywhere, and effortlessly carrying passengers and cargo with me.

I don't like traffic or contributing to traffic. I HATE that we feel the need to pave over our shrinking green space for new highways. I hate the salt and pollution that comes with so many roads and cars.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Driving yes, quite a bit. Especially if you can get out on a racetrack. Was decades after I had left schooling before I realized all that stuff they try to teach you in physics about friction and momentum all actually have real world application for us normies. Would have learned so much more in school if I could have put 2+2 together back then, but I also can't imagine putting 14 year olds out on a racetrack either.

And even when not racing, just the freedom of being able to hop in the car and drive to another state is just downright liberating. Bored? Well, shit, hop in the car, let's go have an adventure! (I will admit, at my age, 'adventure' is code for 'ice cream shop', but it still makes me smile, so fuck it.)

That said, most of us only use our cards for commuting, which is the worst possible experience. It's no wonder so many folks hate driving, their only experience with cars is the bad one. All of us just sitting in traffic wishing we didn't have to go to work. I am seriously angry at our world for not pushing much harder for remote working. We proved it worked great during COVID, and yet here we all are back in the office.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

I mostly dislike it because traffic and idiots in cars. It can be fun, but usually it's just frustrating.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

It's a struggle for me. I absolutely love driving; tearing up country roads in a shitbucket firebird was literally my only solace as a military brat growing up mostly in the southern US. That has never left me, and the ability as an adult to do things like drop $1500 on Michelin Supersports and drive a vehicle that needs the 93 octane fuel has only made it worse.

That being said, as I've gotten older I've been coming around to "we need to end capitalism before it ends us" and car culture is a huge part of that. That leaves me as a huge enjoyer of fuckcars type posts and ideas as well as the owner of a little Japanese sports car that is a big part of my identity and basically my only safe space. I'm very conflicted about it

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

Hate driving when there are other cars. So I hate driving. I didn't mind driving when I was on the I80, cause it was big and wide and more empty but fuck getting to the I80 from here. NJ has bad drivers and I'm one of them. Gimme better transit, NJ!!!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I love riding my motorcycle. I only drive a car on Saturday to get groceries. Beyond that, i daily a bike. I have two for different purposes. For sure, i love my harley. I have to commute about 30mins to work, so i get a bit of time everday. Just enjoy the feeling of being on 2 wheels. Even in the rain, or 110+ heat.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Wow how long have you been biking!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Rode most of my life. Was out of motorcycling for a few decades, but since moving to the SW I am riding all the time. Been here for 4-5 years now.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

Yes, mostly. Depends on the car and the road.

Old car, Ford Falcon AU, didn't really like driving. It's a shit car, just unbreakable so it was a good purchase.

New car, Nissan Skyline GTR 370, love driving. The economy is shit and it needs premium for a fun $2/L, but it's just nice to be in. Stuck in traffic? Comfortable, good audio, good air con. Open country roads? Plenty of power, handles great.

So if car is fun, I like driving, if car is not fun, don't like driving.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

Okay, what I love about driving is that when I feel my mind is wandering too much and I want to do something which can get me to focus, I usually go for a drive (early mornings are the best because of less traffic).

Driving needs your entire attention to be on the road and your surroundings.

For commuting to work, I use public transit (bus) since I don't want to deal with driving in peak hours

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

I like driving and I drive for fun. However, I work from home. Before covid, I certainly didn't like driving during rush hour, that was too stressful.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

I like to drive but I hate traffic. Not only traffic jams but also just normal traffic. I live in a densely populatd country, so I prefer the train. But I absolutely loved driving in rural Chile or Scandinavia.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago

Its all about the what and where. I cant stand city traffic, but an empty winding road feels like freedom. The car you are driving also makes a lot of difference. I personally only buy cars that are fun to drive. I had a smart roadster and now i drive a miata (mx5 where i am from).

[–] [email protected] 5 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I've never had a driver's license and I never will. Expensive, polluting and boring.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Boring? How do you know if you don't have a license

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Love driving until I have to pay more attention to other cars than the road itself.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

Hate it 99.9% of the time. I briefly lived somewhere where everything you would need was a 5 minute walk from home and it was incredible. My city is designed to be as inefficient as possible and to force as many people to drive as possible.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

Hate driving, been doing it 30 years now, sucked the whole time. There's nothing like a thorough train/subway system.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 6 days ago

Kind of. The act of driving itself is not pleasurable from me on it's own, but I mentally connect it with road trips which I love.
And this is the only situation in which I drive. If I had to use a car every day, I'd despise driving completely.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

The infrastructure does not exist in order to make me like driving because 1) we live too close to one another and 2) too many other cars on the road. 3) speed limit

I love driving for adrenaline. But I hate driving for functionality.

Obviously I have sold my car before I lose my house

Daddy why are we poor?

Vroom vroom

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Very much dislike driving. It is isolating, toxic, expensive and boring. Walking among people, or taking public transportation is much nicer in my opinion (not from the US)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I love driving. I love my cars. Plus my commute to/from work has very little traffic and it’s probably the highlight of my day. And that’s what I love my job too.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

Depends. Commuting is dumb, I would rather have robust public transit. But night driving and blasting music while looking out over the city lights is pretty dope.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

Hate driving cars. Love riding an e-bike.

In a car, I feel much more vulnerable, ironically. I'm a big chunk of metal that's hard to miss if anything goes wrong, and that even minor mistakes will result in expensive damage.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

Not really but public transportation usually sucks so I’m doing most things by car nowadays. I’m probably getting old but the idea of driving at lethal speeds through crowded spaces actually terrifies me. I’ve never been in any serious accident but to think that I’m sitting in some death machine is unnerving.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (2 children)

I love it; it gives me some nice peace and quiet and I love the wind in my hair

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

I love to drive when I want to go a place that is far away and the route is interesting, it becomes part of the experience.

I hate to drive when is a chore, like commuting to the job or going to stores that are only placed were the only way to go is by car.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

When I first started driving I had extreme anxiety. Like, it was really bad. I'm pretty sure I cried over it several times. I attribute this in part to the fact that my driving instructor was a humongous asshole.

Over time, I began to relax with it a bit more and even enjoy it. On a nice day, sometimes it's nice to just drive around and vibe to some music. I don't like it as much now because I don't like traffic and such, but thankfully I'm nowhere near the levels of panic-inducing I felt initially.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 days ago

I only learnt to drive a few years ago. I love it. Where I live now, the bus service is ok but it definitely is worth having a car (remote island). I used to be very anti- cars. No driving was one less car on the planet. I had to learn though. The only other person in my family who drives can no longer.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

No. I'm good at it. I've got truck and motorcycle licences too. I prefer walking or bicycling, there aren't great options for those in my suburb.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

Love. Its just commuting to work along with other drivers who don't know the rules of the road that make the experience unpleasant.

But a Boss 302 can make even commuting fun. 😉

[–] [email protected] 2 points 6 days ago

I love it. My secret is that I try to walk more in the city when it's possible, or avoid peak traffic hours if driving. I don't have a regular 9-5 commute. I also regularly drive a curvy route with fairly new asphalt that has very little traffic, because it's actually a shortcut compared to the highway which has a bit more traffic.

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