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[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (2 children)
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[–] [email protected] 25 points 3 days ago (2 children)

The thing that gets people to get out of the house and do things with other people.

Not like a vehicle, or transportation but the other thing

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[–] [email protected] 34 points 3 days ago (5 children)

Being alone.

Everyone’s talking about a loneliness epidemic and I’m here wishing I had fewer people around me.

Most of them I love, for sure, but the freedom and relaxation of not having anyone around is addicting and I haven’t had a good hit since 2020

[–] IronKrill 1 points 1 day ago

You trade me some of your friends and I'll give you some of my alone time, dealio?

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[–] [email protected] 29 points 3 days ago (1 children)

A full set of functioning organs

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[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 days ago (1 children)

An interest in dogs. I really dislike them as far as having to live with one which makes dating literally impossible. Using dating sites over the years I've seen probably 80%+ profiles mention loving dogs, needing dogs, stealing your dog, owning all the dogs, some profiles even start with "blah blah dog."

I hate that there's such an obsession with dogs and travel... :(

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago (5 children)

Do you like cats? Or any other animals?

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 3 days ago (1 children)

An inner voice. My wife and son both talk about options and choices like they've discussed things with another person.

I have to go with plan A. There is no second thought.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (5 children)

Total aphantasia? Same here, but:

No intrusive thoughts, ever.

No visions of, or reliving, trauma.

No sad-memory sounds or tastes.

No facades, so no energy wasted.

And if you got the SDAM bonus, you can re-discover all your favorite books and movies like you never read or watched them before!

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[–] [email protected] 22 points 3 days ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 days ago

Being able to eat gluten. So many things have wheat and thus gluten. Soy sauce? Check. Dumpling wrappers basically everywhere in Japan? Check (more flexible and easier to work that pure rice flour). Tons of sauces? Check. Salad dressings? Check (sometimes via soy sauce in Japan).

[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 days ago (5 children)

The desire to have sex? Sure would make relationships easier.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 days ago (3 children)

I understand this well. Spent a few decades in dysfunctional relationships rooted in my lack of sexual desire. Happily married to another ace woman today, where sex is only ever suggested as part of joke and we've never even came close. She is liberating, freeing, incredible and safe.

Yet I still hold a lot of guilt from previous partners who spent time thinking something was wrong with them or I was cheating because I always made "not tonight" excuses for several years straight. It wasn't fair to either of us, but my lack of introspection, self-honesty and fear of being alone kept us years of strife.

Things are wonderful now, no complaints but GAWD a lot of heart ache could've been avoided if I had a *normal" sex drive.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 days ago

gonads that produce the correct sex hormones

[–] [email protected] 19 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (4 children)

A measurable attention span.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Being an actual person where everything I do isn't too fancy, wannabe grown, picky, spoiled, or out of my league. I want to wear fun clothes and makeup without everyone gawking at it for trying too hard to look like a real person, or everyone angry that it has nice things it doesn't deserve. And probably the ability to enjoy music since I lost that after every single genre I enjoyed was either below society or trying too hard to be More Than.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 3 days ago (6 children)
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[–] [email protected] 15 points 3 days ago

Two things, I have horrible vision, wear -9 glasses. And I am autistic and have a very difficult time navigating many social interactions, I would love to not have to deal with either of these.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 days ago (3 children)

A body that isn't rapidly degrading before I'm even 30.

I had a couple more grocery store stops to make tonight but decided to go home instead because my body hurts and i wanted to stop moving for a while.

Granted, I am fat and sedentary

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 days ago (6 children)

I wish I had enough rhythm to dance, not like some amazing dancer, I'm talking even just a little bit. I dance like Elaine on Seinfeld.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Functional parents.

Mine are 80, and due to a lifetime of terrible decisions and this shitty country, are driving for DoorDash, in the car I "loaned" to them a year ago.

I love them, but it'll be nice when the funeral comes, because at least it'll be the last time they use me as an ATM.

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 days ago (6 children)

A half-decent singing voice.

To illustrate how bad my singing is: our school did a musical every year. One year it was Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat. The music department set up auditions. First they did a speaking audition, after which I was short-listed for Joseph. Then they did the singing audition. I ended up being 'one of the brothers, the one who doesn't really sing anything'.

I don't even want to be an awesome singer, just be able to carry a tune recognisably.

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Regular fucking eyesight

I'm not even asking for 20/20, I'm asking for eyesight that can be fixed by LASIK

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