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[–] [email protected] 71 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

shit when i had friends they didnt knock they just came right in.

back in the before time. the long long ago

[–] [email protected] 22 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Some friends would stay for days. Friends would just roll up at a time we agreed, too. If they didn't show, we wouldn't know why unless we called their house.

The time without cell phones on our person was magical. For kids especially.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I had a best friend that used to sleep over all the time and if he couldn't I slept over at his house. We went to the same school but lived two hours apart. Everyone thought we were a gay couple. Good times.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 12 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 8 points 15 hours ago

You can still experience this. I've had this just in the past few weeks in a major city. Trust people again.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

I've heard this about some countries/areas. I know this was common in parts of canada f.ex.

[–] Fiivemacs 3 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

Still is...my door is unlocked until I goto bed. Friends are more then welcome to use my home as their home whenever they need it Food, get away from the missus, beer, need to pet that dog..don't matter.

They all also have codes for my door lock and can enter if it's locked/I'm not here.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

Edit: yeah that was a bit much lol

[–] [email protected] 38 points 18 hours ago (4 children)

Texts/calls don’t set the dogs off, which is why I don’t ring the doorbell/knock

[–] [email protected] 5 points 10 hours ago

coming in will still set the dogs off so what's the difference

[–] [email protected] 5 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

But if no-one knocks or ring the bell then the dogs won't be conditioned to start barking.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 hours ago
[–] [email protected] 19 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

The dogs are the doorbell!

[–] [email protected] 7 points 13 hours ago

I used to sneak up to one friends house and quietly scratch the door. Their dogs at the time used to love it. If I tried now the new dogs would eat me, door & all.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (2 children)

Nice to warn the dogs you're about to waltz in though

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

as if pets won't know you're on your way when you're 5 blocks away

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 hours ago

Hey man, Dogs can get arrival notifications when they start pitching in for rent

[–] [email protected] 29 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

A horror story in 3 words: My phone rang

[–] [email protected] 17 points 18 hours ago

Please, I'm just about to go to bed :(