Good for you! My wife is 42 and I am 67. We have been together for over 20 years now and are still happy.
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Do you have plans for how to deal with his body aging and becoming infirm quite a long time before yours?
I’ll take care of him the same way he has taken - and continues to take - care of me. I love him. But I also believe that prevention is better than treatment, and he works hard to maintain both his body and mind.
I'll start with the obvious: how old are you? The dynamic of 18 and 43 is much different than 35 and 60.
18 since February.
I hope this is fake and a "joke"
Get away as fast as you can. ???
Now I see why you requested no negative comments. It's about all you would get without that stipulation.
But hey the reality is this: if you are happy and no one is being manipulated, then I'm fine with it. Too few people enjoy the moment, when it is all we have, and no one can say what makes another person's life feel right.
It's easy to judge, but far harder to understand.
As another caring human though, I would also expect everyone who cares for you to be worrying for you quite strongly each time they think of your relationship, and that will be hard on their psyche, and one way or another, that will be expressed by them.
The time for open communication is now if you want it expressed in a healthy manner later.
Just things to be aware of, it's easy to get stuck in our comfortable bubble.
Run.
Why is garlic bread so fucking good?
Garlic is good, and bread is good too - so naturally, good + good = very good. Simple math.
I could literally eat it for every meal.
How did this come to be?
We met in June 2023 through my best friend - he’s her boyfriend’s widowed uncle. I liked him, and he liked me. At the time, my biggest goal was to leave home, and after spending about two months together, I decided to move in with him in August.
Interesting how people just downvoted you without saying anything.
So he literally groomed you?
I’m not going to engage in the online “grooming” debate - it’s pointless, and I don’t feel the need to defend or justify my relationship.
I think it’s something you should think critically about since you moved in with him 2 years ago (16?) you aren’t a fully cooked human yet at that age.
You were underage. I don’t see a debate just a fact.
June 2023 makes her 16, which is over the age of consent in many countries. It might not be the case in yours - it's not in mine - but that doesn't mean it's illegal where they are. Context is important.
Glad the law is the only moral guideline 🙏
"Underage" is a legal colloquialism, so yes, I answered in the context of the comment I was responding to. After all, who sets the age benchmark to determine what is under and what is over age? Please do me the courtesy of taking context into account, if you don't mind; this is a discussion, not an outrage contest.
Before you started the relationship, would you have judged another person in the same position/relationship?
No, I’ve always been a curious person - never a judgmental one.
That's nice. Would you describe your relationship as traditional (whatever that means for you)?
No. In my mind, “traditional” means toxic, oppressive, controlling - in other words, not good or healthy things.
Why would you say traditional is toxic? There are many relationships that have existed throughout history that are not toxic and based on love and connection. Unless we’re interpreting traditional differently.
I think more relationships have been based on power imbalances than "love and connection", if we're talking about all of humanity across the whole of human history. That's the problem with talking about tradition though - you gotta get pretty specific. Whose tradition, starting (and maybe ending) when?
Agreed
Because that’s the version of “traditional” I’ve witnessed on a sociocultural level.
Agreed. How does that express itself in your relationship? And have you been in a traditional relationship before?