Hold on, there. You're telling me there are other people, on the internet, sending you messages, personally, not as part of a mailing list, just sending you messages? Is that a thing? Is that even legal?
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What is even the context of the first one? Admitting to being a woman on the internet?
being into horny talk with others, but not into cnc (many dudes have no chill)
Can't even be cnc with a cold open like that, that's forgetting the first c!
Yup. Reddit horny dudes are infamously terrible at understanding consent.
just looked up consent nonconsent, makes sense.
roleplaying aside, the guy could at least be creative with it. they just asked for your info and called you a slave, give me some depth to the performance smh
edit: forgot the context
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i was confused at first cause i thought you meant DM as in dungeon master
Looks like the Reddit guy thought so as well.
Wouldn't the average Lemmy DM be the "Fediverse Chick" that was getting spammed since that's likely the only DM most people have ever received?
Huh. I actually haven't seen any mention of that since the community for reporting it / sympathizing/fantasizing about it shut down. Are people still getting them?
I may have gotten one or two after that but not many. And not for a few weeks. Maybe a few months now.
I wonder how her studies are going.
there is far more spam than a single obvious fediverse chick on reddit
Unsolicited silliness, how dare they
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Where are all these dms you speak of?
You haven't met nicole™ yet?
But you can call her the fediverse chick!
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shitpost DMs incoming
I would send one myself but I'm too afraid of it being interpreted at face value
what I would have sent
either that gif or the fuck you baltimore fake ad
reddit and lemmy have dm's?
Only found out on reddit when I got my first death threat. The first of many ❤️
Yeah, I basically only ever got hate messages on Reddit. The sole exception was when I posted about how easy it was to emulate older systems, and someone DM’ed me to politely ask for some setup tips for his grandson.
Or weird horny creeps if you posted anything even vaguely relating to cross dressing : c
I will be giving support and kind greetings to those I interact with and shall not be stopped! :3
I have no idea how DMs work here on mobile, and at this point I'm afraid to ask.
You click on a username, and somewhere there's a link to send a message. I use Voyager, so it's hidden under the three dots.
Just sent you one :-)