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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 hour ago

Yes. I was almost three years old. I don't remember much, but I do remember that I started to sing during the wedding ceremony when my parents knelt at the altar. Of course no one else sung.

I also remember that the priest scared the shit out of me and that my godfather "fell asleep" in the toilet and had to be carried to a car. I learned years later that he had severe social anxiety which he treated with liquor.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

Both of their second....

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

Not yet. My dad's wedding is next year.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 hours ago

That would have been quite the logistical challenge

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 hours ago

Technically, unless adoption or donated eggs come to play, 50% of all of us attended the parents wedding, as an ovule inside our mothers ovary.

Then again, some couples never marry. So, there's another exception.

To answer your question: 50% of me was there at the occasion.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 hours ago

i wasn't born yet. I don't even think half of me was in my dad's balls yet

[–] [email protected] 1 points 7 hours ago

I'm not a bastard, but I'm a bandaid. My sister and I like to debate which is worse (:

[–] [email protected] 7 points 16 hours ago

Am I a bastard?

Yes.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 16 hours ago

I was the 3-year-old ring bearer.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 13 hours ago

No but I did when my mom got remarried

[–] [email protected] 4 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I never saw my parents together so for embarrassingly long I believed they didn't know each other at all.

I was a flower girl in my father's wedding at the age of 7. Bet his missis wasn't delighted but her crotch goblins were not out of the nappies yet. The party was fab tho, proper village long table with prolly about hundred people in the middle of nowhere with a lot of live music, food and vodka.

I was in my teens (living with my grandma the whole life) when my mother asked if I want to come to the nearest town for family photos on Saturday and I said yeah no, it's sauna day you know. Turned out I missed my mother's wedding because I had to wash my hair. Still joined them in the afternoon for my mom's birthday and as it turned out the afterparty. So yeah, technically I have attended both my parents' weddings.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 14 hours ago

Obviously this is a highly created summary and you know the details of your life better than me, but from this is seems like more that you missed your mother's wedding because she didn't communicate properly, not because you had to wash your hair.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 13 hours ago

Sure a few times, but not all of them.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 23 hours ago

I would love to, but I wasn't born yet.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 20 hours ago

Not their marriage to each other, but I went to my dad's second wedding, when I was in my twenties. Nice guerrilla ceremony at an art museum

[–] [email protected] 4 points 21 hours ago

It happened 6 years before I was born, so no

[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That’s a nice way to ask if I’m a bastard. No, not the insult. Literally, someone born out of wedlock.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

I'm a bastard in both senses.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 22 hours ago

They married ages before we were born. I attended my mother's second marriage. I wasn't invited to my father's second marriage because his mistress was and is a fucking asshat.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 22 hours ago

No, my parents married 5 years before I was born.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

I was 3 when I attended my parents' wedding. I guess I should note not my dad and birth mom.

I met my birth mom many years later. She stressed how she and my dad were briefly married when I was born, so I wasn't a bastard, and that she gave birth in FL, not MI — the only home I remembered — so I wasn't a damn Yankee. Like she did me some kindness in both those cases.

That was the attitude that led me to be quite happy with my circumstances — acting like I was in her debt over things I had no care over. So yeah, I attended the wedding of my dad and the only woman I'll ever call mom.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 21 hours ago

no, my mother got remarried while I was out of the state

[–] [email protected] 4 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

My dad got remarried but I didn't attend that. Didn't see any point in honoring a ceremony that he already proved is meaningless.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Did he cheat on his first wife?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 21 hours ago

Cheated, secret other kid. The works!

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was around 20 years too late.

They didn't attend mine either, as it happens, on the grounds that they too were "late" by then.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Hey, this almost exactly matches my situation. Neat.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

In China where my parents are from, people aren't supposed to have sex before marriage, so I couldn't possibly have been conceived before the marriage/wedding. Typical conservatism lol

(Btw porn is illegal in like many area of the world, westerners are lucky to be able to enjoy... content... 🤭)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 hours ago

That's right, it's an issue in Catholicism too. That's why my sister wasn't conceived before marriage, she was just born a few months early 😉😉

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

The first wedding I ever attended was my father’s. The second ever was my mother’s. The third was mine.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Congratulations!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 23 hours ago

If you don't attend your wedding, then it's not your wedding!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

In a way I did: shotgun marriage, she was 4 months already

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yes, I'm the firstborn, but I was oneish when they got married, so I'm a bastard 😃

Also attended my mum's second wedding, about 7 years after her divorce from my dad. My mum and stepdad are still married 🥰

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Well, no, but in a sense, I kind of was. The ovum already existed and had for <mother's age at the time> years, but the exact sperm did not. I came along too much later for that to have been possible. But my DNA was all there. Just not assembled in the right order yet.

Alternatively, if you believe in reincarnation, I still might have been. I have at least one relative who was there who didn't make it to my birth. Maybe I'm one of them come back.

If that was a conscious choice, that may have been a mistake, but that's another story.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

No...? But I did the math correctly, and for a certain interpretation of "attend", I am a day too late.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

They never married.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

No, they married only once, and it was before my time.

But later, they attended my wedding.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

As a younger sibling.. nah :3

I wasn't a reason for my parents misery, just a consequence of it

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Nope, that was 18 years before I was born.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 23 hours ago

my parents were never married

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Our son was 14 at our wedding, his bio-dad died when he was 3.