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[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago

Where can I get vers surgery?

[–] [email protected] 224 points 2 days ago (1 children)

"Top surgery makes you a top" is an amazing take.

[–] [email protected] 51 points 2 days ago (3 children)

What if I want to do bottom surgery but am already a bottom? What happens now?

[–] [email protected] 63 points 2 days ago

You obviously become a power bottom

[–] [email protected] 35 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Integer overflow, turns you into max value top.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Isn't it an integer underflow?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Dammit, I knew I was missing something

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago

Lets you bottom twice simultaneously

[–] [email protected] 128 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Normally, tone is hard to convey through text, but that "Honey No" is doing just splendid.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I really can't think of a single context outside of speaking to your significant other or spouse where "Honey" isn't slimy or laden with judgement/pity.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 23 hours ago

Diner waitresses that call everyone Honey/hon/sugar/shug.

If you ever get a Sir/Ma'am from them, you're in deep shit.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Or parents/caretakers (e.g. babysitter)

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 13 hours ago

talking to a cat got me forgetting English, "oww just a baubeeree!! oweesocutteee! such babycoded of you!! 🥰🥰"

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Thats a very significant other.

[–] [email protected] 73 points 2 days ago (2 children)

After top surgery you can spin, like forever!

[–] [email protected] 31 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] saigot 17 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The director confirmed that Elliot Page does fall over at the end!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 days ago

This is so fucking funny omg

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

This made me actually rofl

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago

I am in Spain without the A.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 days ago

If you get both top and bottom surgeries, you wraparound to the other end of the spectrum like Pac-Man and you're just cisgender again.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 days ago (1 children)

How did you manage to find an actual person to talk to on grindr? It's all bots, ads and crypto scams for me.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I'm a trans woman, but I went on grindr to search for femboys one time since there aren't really any on lesbian apps and I got so many unsolicited dick pics + one gaping bussy pic that I just left and never came back. And I was only on there for like 5 minutes. I don't know if those dick pics were from bots or not but I've stopped using dating apps cause it seems every single one gets me either a bunch of bots or a bunch of dick pics.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

why would femboys be on lesbian apps? I feel like we would be very much not welcome there lol.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 23 hours ago

I've actually seen a few and I personally don't have a problem with it. I have also seen a lot of trans men on lesbian apps and technically, they should be on straight dating apps, but queer dating apps are more welcoming and it's not an uncommon experience for transgender people to get banned from straight dating apps unfortunately (I myself am banned from tinder). I wouldn't be surprised if those apps were also banning femboys as well.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Grindr is one big flesh market, honestly. It's a 10/90 gamble, 90% dick pics and 10% the occassional deep .... discussions.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago

Deep discussions on grindr reminds me of this:

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 days ago

It's also a great way to gain access to buildings. I know someone who uses it to get into high rise apartments with his buddies. Set the proximity search thingamajig to a few hundred feet, and you'll only match with others in that building you're outside of. He gets a lay, his buddies make their way to the top, and he joins them later.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago

And that's how I met your father